When Nothing Seems to Go Your Way
We’re going to be quite blunt in this article. When nothing seems to go your way, you may simply need to stop trying to control everything. Trying to stop or fix things that are out of your control rarely goes well and you usually just end up frustrated. Learn how to free yourself from these self-imposed chains and avoid falling into a sea of psychological problems in this article.
Most people live as if they were on autopilot. Instead of pausing to think and reflect on all of their options, they simply act in the moment, like an airplane on autopilot. Keeping your internal autopilot on at all times keeps you from seeing all the facts. Living this way also makes you see events through your own, possibly distorted, view of the world, instead of as they really are.
Focusing only on your own thoughts and emotions about events, instead of the events themselves, only makes you lose out on experiencing and living life.
Trying to control what you can’t causes a lot of emotional and psychological distress.
Asking yourself why you do certain things and why you behave in a certain way opens the door to understanding your behavior. On the other hand, focusing exclusively on the past or the future traps you either in guilt or worry. Both of these focuses make you lose sight of what’s happening now. This limits your thoughts, emotions, and actions.
On top of that, failure to live in the moment also makes you much more likely to react poorly to present situations. This way of thinking makes you lose touch with your current circumstances, making it more difficult for you to act as you should.
To be blunt, stop focusing on what you wish was happening. Instead, focus and act on what is actually happening right now.
Your life isn’t what happens to you, it’s how you react to it
As they say, happiness isn’t a situation, it’s a state of mind. Clearly, your attitude is the real secret to happiness. It can determine if you enjoy life or feel enslaved to your circumstances. But a good attitude comes from turning the autopilot off. This means reacting to each situation as it arises and not using old, ineffective habits.
Wishing that everything went your way is not only unrealistic, it can make you unhappy.
It’s very important to react to each situation as it comes. If you keep the autopilot on, it’s going to be very difficult to change your life, no matter what happens in the outside world. As they say, to someone with a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
We can all easily convince ourselves that our way of thinking is the right one. But we have to react to reality as it is, not as we wish it was. No one gets the luxury of having a totally perfect life and we all have to deal with life as it comes. And this sometimes includes unpleasant situations.
“I have been a lucky man, nothing in my life has been easy.”
According to psychological experts, your life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. We all have to face reality, see things as they are, and determine the best way to react to them.
“I’m going to wish that everything happened the way I want it to until my wish comes true.”
Do you really want everything to go your way?
Understanding that you can change anything under your control gives you the freedom to choose your circumstances. This might mean going beyond your current desires or habits.
You’re more than just your thoughts. No one is simply a rigid set of beliefs. We’re all more than predetermined, and sometimes imaginary, limitations and ideas. People are adaptable! Everyone changes. The sooner you realize this, the sooner your life will develop as it must.
In reality, nothing good or bad happens in the universe. Everything that happens is neutral and necessary. The problem arises when we fight against situations and circumstances that are part of the evolutionary process of every human being. From now on, try to see reality as neutral and don’t be quick to judge it.
The truth is that it’s not what happens to us that determines if an event is good or bad. It’s what we think about it. There’s nothing more devastating and heartbreaking than longing for something that isn’t happening. That’s why abandoning this harmful habit is one of the best things you can do for your well-being.
“The wise man doesn’t want anything good, strong, docile, rebellious, contradictory, or coherent. He just wants to be.”