Want Lasting Love? Work on These Aspects of Your Relationship

· January 4, 2016

 

Love is the one emotion that has the most songs dedicated to it, the most movies depicting it, the most novels about it. We all know this. We’re all searching for a true love because where our imperfections are really understood and can be accepted.

But what do couples who seem to enjoy everything in their relationship (both the good and the imperfect) have in common?

“Because without searching, I see you everywhere, especially when I close my eyes”

-Julio Cortazar-

What are the characteristics that define a solid relationship?

Being part of an authentic and strong relationship allows you to learn about a myriad of beautiful things. You feel like you are part of a successful and unbreakable team and you behave differently than you have in other relationships. It is also likely that you will be more understanding and able to unconditionally accept your partner.


This article takes a look at the 5 things that couples normally learn when they are part of a healthy, successful relationship:

You learn to trust your partner.

The basis of any type of relationship, especially an intimate one, is the trust we instill upon the other person and vice versa. True love gives birth to trust.

The best relationships share and are built upon deep trust; this trust acts as a solid support system that each partner needs in order to be able to communicate openly and honestly. If you are a part of a relationship lacking in trust, we advise you to ask yourself this question: How are you going to maintain a life with someone you don’t trust?

Growth and change are encouraged in both partners.

When we are involved in a healthy relationship, both parties must encourage and promote growth and change in the other. We all have the right to discover, learn and improve as individuals. Your partner should be helping you by encouraging your dreams instead of trying to hinder them.

Furthermore, you must return this support to your partner. We encourage one another to explore, discover and learn from new experiences that let us continue to develop throughout our lives. Doing so keeps us from falling into a dull routine within the relationship and feeds true love so that each person feels emotionally secure.

You learn that occasional misunderstandings are inevitable.

By enjoying a healthy and fulfilling relationship on all levels, it’s normal for each one of us to also have our own differences that will need to be understood and accepted by the other.

It is completely normal for there to be misunderstandings within a relationship. But what is most important, in this case, is to reflect before saying the first thing that pops into your head. We tend to interpret what our partner says using our own personal filter and later come to realize that what they really meant to say was not exactly how we ended up interpreting it in our heads.

These are the times when we have to be humble in order to recognize the error and move past it. If you are constantly recalling everything your partner has done wrong, you will only be damaging the relationship and setting yourself up for more communication problems in the future. Many times, what we are saying gets interpreted incorrectly, leaving us frustrated. Don’t worry! Take a deep breath, take your time, and remember that your partner will always have their own way of interpreting life that will be different from yours, even if it’s only in small ways.

In the end, your partner is unique, which is why you love them and have decided to share your life with them in the first place. So don’t forget that there will be misunderstandings, but you will both be able to handle them, work through them, and move on.

You admit your weaknesses.

When we begin a relationship and fall in love, we look at our partner as a type of superhero. But let’s be real, we both know that they aren’t and that is just fine. We are all unique and as human beings we have the gift of learning by making mistakes.

It’s good to be honest with yourself, to love yourself unconditionally and not let those small mistakes distract you from what’s really important in your relationship. A good start to having a stable and serious relationship is to be honest about the weaknesses that both you and your partner have. This honesty allows the both of you to be more understanding about what bothers you, help you improve and also be aware of the areas you may need to work on. All of this helps to strengthen the bond you share.

You show how you feel.

The worst thing we can do that gets in the way of enjoying a healthy, solid relationship is to play games with our emotions. But what does this mean? It means your partner should always feel loved, wanted and respected. By using displays of affection more and more with one another, we are able to  emotionally reward each other.

Although one of you may upset or frustrate the other, remember that you love each other and it’s possible that one of you may just be acting up in order to demand the affection that they miss. It’s important that you both know what the other is feeling so that you know how to handle these moments of tension, misunderstanding or disagreement. Take the time to express your feelings in a way that your partner will understand.

We like to emphasize that when talking about intimate relationships, each one is unique and has its own time, state and evolution. The lessons that we have brought you here are the most common that we have come across in our own intimate relationships.

We are constantly learning from our experiences. We encourage you to be aware of each one of these lessons as you and your partner build your relationship. If you have experienced something we can add to this list, we would love for you to share it with the rest of our readers!