Stars on Our Emotional Journey

· December 12, 2015

Society puts a lot of pressure on us to be in a relationship. Its so powerful that many people end up settling for someone who isn’t right for them, just to conform to society’s standards. We’re afraid to be alone, of what society will say when they look at us. We‘re in a rush to choose someone who we think will be a perfect match.

“Either way, I don’t know if I’m a star, a planet or a black hole, but I demand stars on my emotional journey. The older I get, the more I can identify those who aren’t. It’s one of the perks of getting older. You can see them all coming from light years away.

There are big screen loves and short story loves. Loves worthy of films and loves that barely last twenty seconds. The difference is that the former only happen once. And the latter, like it or not, you are doomed to repeat as often as they please, even against your will.

Extract from an article written by Risto Mejide

drawing of girl in tree


You deserve whatever makes you feel the best

You’ve probably had a lot of failed relationships. Don’t look to place the blame. It’s usually our own wrong ideas about love that make these relationships fail.

It’s not about waiting for Mr. Right to give us a kiss like in the movies. To take us away in his convertible and travel the world with our overflowing passion. Demanding stars on our emotional journey means only one thing: the person you deserve is one who wants to make you happy, and one which is happy being with you.

And when you find that person, you’ll notice that nothing compares to being with someone who is willing to work through your differences and conflicts in order to be with you.

Because when we find the right person, you can simply tell. You can tell because when they hug you, they put all of your broken pieces back together again.

Because stars have their own light and, since they never stop shining, they destroy all of the darkness in their wake. As Risto says, it’s a light that makes you fall in love. Because it’s free and doesn’t depend on anything or anyone.

drawing of girl on ladder looking at moon

I don’t need you, I prefer you

Love isn’t nurtured by need, but by preference. So, for couples, emotional independence is ideal. And that’s what we should strive to obtain. Because preferring someone is immensely more enriching and healthy than needing them.

Our stars light up any place and moment, regardless of where they are. However, we should keep in mind that our stars self-consume simply by shining. They may run out of energy if the stars next to them don’t pitch in. If they don’t offer them some intensity and motive to keep on shining.

Therefore, maybe another one of our wrong ideas about love is thinking that because a love is clean and shiny, it’s eternal. The truth is that we have to do our part, work on it, care for it and shine together.
Being a couple means building a team. And teamwork doesn’t mean being dependent, but cooperating with the same enthusiasm with which we look at the stars every night. And they never fail. They are always there, accompanying us in the sky despite the clouds blocking our view.

We have to keep in mind that there aren’t certain times when we should start a relationship because it seems that it’s appropriate. Instead, we should demand from ourselves nothing less than the company of an ideal partner to help shine our love.