6 Reasons Relationships End

September 30, 2015

What causes relationships to fail? The majority of relationships fail for the same reasons. Knowing these triggers can help make your relationship more successful and durable.

“The majority of problems in a human relationship are caused by a lack of mutual recognition.”
Cieri Estrada Doménico

So what are the most common causes of breakups?

1 – Jealousy

Jealousy is often the cause of breakups. Jealousy often occurs when there are feelings of separation or the feeling that you need to compete with something in the relationship. Jealousy resulting from insecurity and fear of losing the person you love, as well as jealousy of your partner’s successes can cause issues. Therefore, it is necessary to learn how to accept the successes of your significant other and live with them, so that you can develop your relationship with confidence and trust.


2 – Excessive clinginess

Love is one thing, but clinginess is another. Emotional attachment is very harmful in a relationship. When we are emotionally attached to someone, we need their constant presence and attention, and this makes us act jealous and demanding. Often, this level of attachment is rooted in insecurity.

In these cases, it is necessary to develop self-confidence and have faith in oneself, always conscientious of the fact that we cannot depend on others for this. Strong relationships need a certain separation and independence.

3 – Selfishness

Selfishness is arguably the root of all problems in a relationship. When we are selfish we think primarily of ourselves and end up ignoring the needs of others, instead focusing on our own egos. And it is hard to live with a self-centered, selfish person.

We need to be able to accept others for what they are, instead of expecting them to give us all their attention.

When we act selfishly we want praise, support, and backing from others to be constant, but we are not willing to give anything in exchange. True love is selfless and is given without expecting anything in return.

4 – Focusing on flaws

Spending a lot of time with another person means that you are going to discover their defects and faults. Successful relationships require a certain tolerance of others’ shortcomings. If you dedicate yourself to collecting someone’s faults and throwing them back in their face and, even worse, wanting them to change themselves to your liking, the relationship is lost.


Although this does not mean that you have to ignore when they make mistakes, you do need to be tolerant and get to know the other person. 

If you think your significant other should change something, you have to tell them, convince them, and help them to change it. Furthermore, a strong relationship should be capable of taking constructive criticism and suggestions.

5 – Domination

It is fundamental value your partner’s individual freedom. Inevitably, problems will surface in a couple when one tries to dominate the other. Behind this domination is the expectation that the other should be the way you want. Unfortunately, people usually don’t when they are trying to dominate their partner.

Often the problem is that people forget that you love – or should love – a person, not an idea. How easy it is to fall in love with the idea of love, and how difficult to discover that things are not as nice as we imagine them to be in our dreams or as nice as they said they would be, right?

No one has the right to tell someone else how to live, what to think, or how to act. If a relationship is based on expectations and domination, there will inevitably be conflict at some point. The strongest relationships are based on mutual understanding and stay free of expectation.

6 – Lack of time together

Many relationships end because individuals do not dedicate enough time to spend with their partner, and this is often because their partner is not a priority. It is inevitable in these cases that the other will feel neglected and unloved. So even if you cannot spend as much time as you would like with your partner, it is important to reserve time for special moments. This does not mean you should compensate for a lack of time with a “condensed” version, but that you should show your partner you care about them.