Being Single Is My Reality, for Better or Worse
We should pay attention to the celebrated Petronius, who said that “You can get married or stay single, but you will regret it either way.” It doesn’t matter what you do, you will always fail. Or maybe we always look for what we don’t have? The thing is that for many people, being single is a reality, whether it’s chosen or not.
However, the way we really are tends to be expressed through our social behavior. Even if we’re great actors, our relationships with others describe us just as we are to someone who knows how to interpret the signs.
Why to choose being single
Within the social world we live in, more and more people are choosing to stay single. Nevertheless, for others it’s not a choice. Instead, it’s a reality, because they haven’t been able to pair up. There’s also other people who are indifferent to it. And we could go on and on about the variety of motivations in regards to whether to have a partner or not, which just a few years ago was indispensable.
The thing is that throughout our lives we meet all sorts of people. But every day, the option of being single is more accepted on a social level. Or, at the very least, if someone doesn’t find a mate, they are not intent on finding one simply to not be seen as an outcast. Which used to happen up until not too long ago.
That’s why, the psychologist and sociologist Arturo Torres has embark down the difficult path of drawing up a list of the different types of bachelors. Nevertheless, this classification is informal, but it’s curious to look at. Who knows? Maybe you’ll find the reflection of your own current social reality.
The independent single life
Torres starts off by talking about independent bachelors. These people value their lives without the chains they consider they would suffer from if they had a partner. For them, their time and space are much too important. Thus, they flee from intense commitment, since they see it as a limiting factor.
This group includes the people whose minds can’t even fathom the idea of being in a relationship. They are completely self-sufficient and need a high level of isolation. Their natural state is solitary, but not in a negative way. They simply don’t have any interest in sharing their world with other people.
The isolated single
In this case, Torres refers to those singles who, even though they’re independent and self-sufficient, would prefer to have a partner. Thus, they don’t feel isolated, but they wish to share and abandone their solitary lifestyle. Oftentimes this happens because they are unaccustomed to being social or due to their poor ability to learn new habits.
“The tiger is the one that walks in figure eights on the floor from his solitude. He doesn’t go backwards, nor does he advance forwards.”
-Ramón López Velarde-