Seven Relationship Red Flags

Seven Relationship Red Flags

Last update: 25 November, 2015

Building an authentic relationship in which we live and feel free is one of the pleasures that we should all experience at least once. There are no words that can express the degree of hope, security, and support that a healthy, pleasurable relationship can bring you.

When we find the person with whom we enjoy true and sincere love, we can share our dreams, desires, and happiness, both of us enjoying the precious moments, loving without restraints and fears.

Everything can be incredible in a relationship, but it is true that sometimes these can turn strange, different, and destructive for the people in them. If this situation occurs, it is very important to find a solution, to act and not allow it to continue.

If your partner makes you feel really bad or demands too much of your attention through unusual behavior, you need to remedy the situation.

Here are seven situations that no one should accept in a relationship…

1. Controlling behavior

If your partner asks you where you are going to be, it doesn’t necessarily imply something negative. They’re just worrying about you and if something might happen to you. But, if your partner begins to put time limits on you, and attempts to restrict who you can spend time with, then yes, we do need to start worrying and talk to them about it. It is also important to remember that it is essential to have the freedom to make our own decisions within a relationship and to have our own lives.

2. Unjustified jealousy 

Does your partner always think that you are lying to them? When these emotions show up in the other person, this type of extreme jealousy has its origin in their insecurity . It is true that we all feel insecure on many occasions. What is also true is that this insecurity can become a bad habit, wearing away at us.

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3. Your partner hopes you will change

When we love someone and decide to enter into a relationship with them, we are accepting them as they are, both the good and the less-positive parts of them and their personality. You love everything that your partner entails and this means having mutual respect. As such, you don’t try to change them unless it is a situation where the person may obviously come to harm. Each of us is unique and one-of-a-kind. A partner who wants us to change or modify our essence is not showing true love.

4. Unhealthy arguments

There are two kinds of conversation: normal, healthy ones and toxic or destructive ones. Avoiding those discussions where both people raise their voices, exchange negative words, or look for ways to hurt the other person is necessary to create a positive and healthy relationship. By learning to empathize and engage in dialogue, you will prevent your relationship from turning into the opposite of what you are looking for.

5. Lies

Lies constitute one of the simplest ways to ruin a relationship. Trust is the basis of any relationship and, more importantly, it forms a highly essential part of our lives. Lying wears us out and destroys us emotionally. In addition, the person who starts to lie usually has to keep doing it to lend credibility to the lie that they have previously told, thus entering a loop that is difficult to escape.

6. They don’t support your dreams and desires

Support forms the basis of any relationship. If we know a person who doesn’t believe in us and who doubts our potential, then we have to let them go. Why? You must not allow anyone to take away your desire to fight for what makes you feel alive: your dreams. If you let them do this, then you will no longer be the master of your own, authentic life.

7. They only want you for sex

Sex is a bonus in a relationship. If you aren’t in the mood to have sex with your partner, you have no reason to feel bad and don’t have an obligation to do it. You must say no when you don’t feel like it or don’t want to. It is always good to converse the make things explicit on this point, as sex is an action between two people, born of love and mutual respect.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.