How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection

August 28, 2016

Human beings are scared of losing their lives, their health, their social status, money, loved ones, youth and, of course, the approval of others, because most people like and need to fit in with everyone else.

You shouldn’t seek security in other people, because that’s a dead-end street. You need to find security and confidence within yourself. Not within others. Because any glance, word or action from another person can be interpreted incorrectly as a rejection, went it simply isn’t.

How to deal with the fear of rejection

1. Be aware of what’s happening 

Look within yourself and reflect upon your beliefs of how rejection can influence your behavior, and how your behavior can, in turn, influence your actions. That is to say, if you already think you are going to be rejected, it is going to end up happening. You can’t begin changing your actions until you truly see what is happening. Look for signs, not only of what’s going wrong, but also of what’s working for you.

2. Think about how you want to feel 

Someone who feels rejected constantly thinks about it. They think about not wanting to feel like this. They think about why they were rejected. But that’s a mistaken idea, it’s a problem you have to fix at some point in your life. You shouldn’t think that you don’t want to be rejected. You should instead think about being relaxed and sure of yourself.

3. Think about how your fear towards rejection came about 

Surely in your schoolyard days you felt rejected. Close your eyes and think about everything you have learned since then and imagine yourself as a calm child who was unafraid of rejection. Also imagine your present self as a calm being, telling yourself that everything is okay. Although this may seem weird, it has a great impact on the way in which you felt as a child, and it helps you overcome these moments.

4. Above all, use your constructive imagination 

Close your eyes and use your imagination to feel and act differently in situations in which you would normally feel insecure. Hypnosis can directly influence the way in which you feel when you experience certain situations, and it can try to change the thought processes someone has when their emotions are altered.

5. Don’t assume anything 

People who never learn to question and doubt their own assumptions make their life much harder than it needs to be. Don’t be so sure of what’s going to happen, or of what you know. That way you’ll be able to relax and keep in mind the possibility that there can be good and bad results. You shouldn’t always assume that you will be rejected. Not knowing is the key to having confidence and enjoying life.