Nothing Makes People Better as Much as Love

24 December, 2016

You are probably already feeling a little skeptical just by reading the title of this article. In our world, the strategies used to make people better are based on competition and manipulation. Thus, the word love seems too “corny” or “idealistic”.

But in reality, there is no other way to achieve it. In fact, you could say that it is the only way that actually works. The only thing that truly transforms us. In order to transform people, you have to love them.

Loving them unconditionally doesn’t imply putting up with situations that make us unhappy. Putting a stop to a story is also an act of love, if you know how to do it correctly. Because separation doesn’t imply the end of love.

If you only wish to change them, let them go

Loving is an act of giving yourself to someone unconditionally. It shouldn’t cause suffering, but sometimes it implies uncertainty and going through some tough times. This is especially exemplified in the love we have for a partner. With them, we share certain pieces of us that others don’t see. We open up in body and soul. We bare ourselves before the other person with fear, but also with anticipation.

We discover things about ourselves that we didn’t know existed, but the act of loving arises passions. The most beautiful and feared passions we can experience.

The concept of romantic love that we have been sold is frustrating. Because nobody told us that coexistence can be difficult, that we would doubt the other’s love for us and doubt who we are on numerous occasions.

“We learn to love, not when we find the perfect person, but when we see an imperfect person as perfect.”
-Sam Keen-

True love is neither hard nor easy, but it requires commitment, and large doses of patience and trust. The love that the other person gives us doesn’t serve to fill our emotional voids, since only we can deal with those. However, it is not any less true that many of us could have cured our wounds with a simple gesture of affection. With one of those hugs that puts all of your little broken and scattered pieces back together again.

Love unconditionally and let things happen

Many relationships end because we love “half-heartedly”. Because we use an endless number of strategies to make our love less noticeable or evident. They say that when you show your heart, you seem vulnerable, and that is not true. The true catastrophic thing would be for our life to end without us having “gone for it” in the name of love.

People are meant to be loved unconditionally.

“He who has only known his wife and has loved her, knows more about women than he who has met thousands.”

– León Tolstói-

People are meant to be loved

People are meant to be loved and surprised with little details in their everyday. What matters is their reaction. So you can give them more than you deem prudent, because prudence isn’t a virtue when it comes to love. It is only a shield.

Many of us spend years in school. We interact with endless amounts of people and spend almost all our lives doing it some way or another. As children, mothers, employees, spouses or sisters. We have never shown them, the people around us, how important they are to us.

We don’t know the healing power of a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a handshake or a smile. We take details for granted, when in reality, they mean the world. Ask yourself why your relationship with someone isn’t going smoothly. Before you ask yourself why you are so determined to “throw in the towel”. Think about whether you’ve ever attempted to love unconditionally.

Remember that people are meant to be loved. When they perceive this, changes begin to take place which no logical-mathematical or medical strategy could ever accomplish.

If you ever feel like there’s nothing left to be done for a relationship, remember that people are also meant to be loved during goodbyes. Only then can you transform love into memory instead of into resentment. People are meant to be loved and things are meant to be used. Not the other way around.