A New Nail Doesn't Drive Out the Old One
No matter how much we might think this is true, a new worry does not take your mind off of the old one. A new nail doesn’t drive out an old one. Or as the more common (mistaken) saying goes “the best way to get over a guy is to get under another one”. False! Starting a new romantic relationship like someone looking for a shot of painkiller for the sorrows of a recent breakup is not the best choice. That nail, stuck deep in our heart, will only be pulled out by the very hammer that put it there in the first place. Driving another nail in will only make the hole bigger.
Surviving a breakup is something that nobody prepares you for. Just like doctor Vicente Garrido explains, often we tend to get desperate searching for the reason why. It’s hard for us to understand that sometimes relationships simply shipwreck because people have free will. Because the love between them ends, or simply because the other person isn’t mature enough to liberate that responsibility.
“Love is so short, and forgetting is so long…”
-Pablo Neruda-
Accepting the final goodbye, the distance and having to start a new life with an empty space on the other side of the bed, and another in your heart…fills you with despair. Our brain goes into a state of “alarm”. It interprets that pain as something real, like a blow very similar to a burn. We need to alleviate that burning sensation with a good dose of dopamine. Something quick and easy that will alleviate the pain in our soul.