
Give up on all of those situations that generate a discomfort within you. Give up on people that you have stopped mattering to. Giving up is difficult. It is a very important step in which we feel insecure and full…
Irritable people are addicted to constant anger. Hitting the table, slamming doors, shouting, and even throwing tantrums… These people don’t know how to communicate without raising their voices, lose it quickly, and can’t be contradicted. However, behind this difficult behavior often hides a weak person who uses anger as a defense mechanism.
We’ve all lost our cool once or twice. We know what it feels like when rage takes control and almost without knowing it’s happening, we explode in the most inopportune and least tactful way. The important thing about these experiences is that they offer helpful lessons. We learn, whether we want to or not, how important an assertive attitude is when handling complicated situations where our emotional maturity is put to the test.
An irritable person is someone who has learned to relate to the world through anger and uses anger to get what they wants.
On the other hand, there’s a crucial aspect that’s important to consider. Nowadays, we still don’t really understand anger. What we can say, however, is that we should avoid irritable people in our daily lives to safeguard our emotional balance and health.
However, nothing is more essential than understanding. If we take a look at psychology and understand that behind that angry child, that family member with a bad temperament, and that boss who constantly succumbs to frustration, there’s someone who doesn’t know how to use any other kind of language. Someone who fights with themselves and doesn’t know what to do or where all this explosive rage and negativity comes from.
The French have a very good word for this type of passive-aggressive behavior, for people who use anger to communicate. They use the expression “sous-entendu,” which means something like “what’s understood underneath or what’s underneath.” What’s under the wolf’s skin that makes him use this kind of devastating emotional intensity? The answer couldn’t be simpler: there’s another wolf, a wounded wolf.
Let’s take a look at some of those characteristics that could explain this type of dynamics in irritable people.
Irritable people don’t have a good quality of life. It’s an issue that, from a clinical point of view, can’t and shouldn’t be ignored. Also, as studies show us, these people suffer from more heart problems, strokes, respiratory problems, bad defenses… Anger can also create insurmountable distances from the people we love.
Because of this, these people frequently have what is known as displaced anger. They may be angry with something or someone, but end up projecting all their negative energy onto those who deserve it the least: their children or spouse… It’s important to give them resources and strategies so that they can understand that anger isn’t an acceptable way to communicate. Instead, assertiveness allows you to deal with situations in a better way.
Let’s take a look at some simple strategies that can help us handle this emotion much better:
To conclude, let’s consider one last aspect. Sometimes an irritable person not only uses verbal violence, but often, physical violence becomes a recurring problem. Don’t hesitate to intervene in these cases, taking measures to protect yourself if you’re a victim of violence and taking action if you’re the ones that creates these dynamics.