In Time I Learned
There are certain lessons you should never forget, because they’re the ones that set you apart and define you. Life says nothing, yet shows you everything; and it’s such an amazing teacher that if you haven’t learned your lesson, it will teach you again.
“After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises. And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So you plant your garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong, and you really do have worth… And you learn and learn…With every good-bye you learn.”
-Jorge Luis Borges-
And that’s what we call the school of life; it’s what teaches you that you’re not afraid of the dark, but of what’s in it, and you’re not afraid of heights, but of falling. Living also helps you to understand that it’s not that you don’t trust the people around you, but you’re afraid of being rejected.
It’s helps you grasp that you’re not afraid of love, but of not being loved in return. And if you don’t want to let go, your problem is that the person is already gone. And all of this is just part of life. It’s the type of wisdom you can’t find in books and that no one can teach you. It’s that one part that we have to learn on our own, and it’s going to hurt; it hurts because you end up learning through falls and disappointments.
It’s a pain that keeps you in suspense until it fades, and only then do you go further and climb to the next rung on your ladder. Because deep down, you know that he or she who is reluctant to change has an internal death wish.
So love your place in the world, and love and live life to the fullest. Appreciate the bruises and the beatings because they make you human; hang in there and fight with all of your might against complacency; don’t live for the future and never lose your sense of humor, no matter what.