How to Be Lucky
Does good luck really exist? Are some people more lucky than others? Undoubtedly, this is a topic for debate. When things don’t go well for us, and others around us seem to have all the luck in the world, we often turn to phrases like “I’m just not lucky”, or “He has all the good luck, everything goes well for him!”.
But is luck something that actually exists? Does everything depend on destiny, randomness? Well, maybe we should save that question for another day…or maybe not. There are no formulas or magic rituals; maybe it does depend on us more than we think…
Do good luck and bad luck really exist?
We all tend to frequently talk about the bad luck we have and the good luck that everyone else seems to have. Do you really believe this? If you really think about it, in all of our lives, there is a little bit of everything, of good moments and bad moments… you are not the only one.
If you want to change your luck, be brave and start over. Adopt a positive attitude, don’t be afraid of a new beginning, get rid of all of your negative thoughts, and stop torturing yourself for mistakes you have made. It may be that in reality being lucky actually lies in the attitude you have towards life…
“I really believe in luck and I have confirmed that, the harder I work, the luckier I am.”
-Thomas Jefferson-
How to be lucky
1. Be positive
If you believe good things will happen in your life, they will happen. Within your attitude lies the belief that things will go well, or the perspective that what has happened is not the worst case scenario…If you cultivate positivity, you may find that you get lucky more often.
“The bad things that have happened to you are simply a prelude to something good.”
2. If something doesn’t turn out the way you had hoped, try it again
Instead of complaining that something didn’t go well, why don’t you just try it again? Things haven’t gone well in your relationship so far? Try it again. The cake you just baked burned in the oven? Make it again! And when you try these things again, think about what you can improve.
3. Believe that you do not have bad luck
Life is like a Ferris wheel: sometimes we are on top, sometimes we are at the bottom. What happens is what we tend to complain about how bad everything is when we are at the bottom. This is because we have learned to focus our energy on what is negative…
4. Don’t focus on the bad moments of your life
Every person has bad moments in their life. The best we can do with them is learn from them and leave them behind once they have passed. Continuing to dwell on them is useless. The only thing they do is reinforce the idea that everything will always go badly.
5. Think positive thoughts and get rid of the negative ones
Yes, this is difficult. However, it is a job that is continuous, and that we can work on little by little. When you start spiraling down into negative thoughts, redirect your way of thinking. If you think that you can’t do this, share your thoughts and problems with someone else who usually has a positive attitude. This can help a great deal. Other strategies may be to put on some music you like, or getting some exercise. Learn the ways that help you disconnect those negative thoughts quickly.
6. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes; don’t torment yourself over the mistakes you have made
Frequently thinking about mistakes we have made can make us unhappy. These mistakes can convince us that we have bad luck because our mistakes, in our own minds, are a symptom of bad luck. But what would life be without mistakes?
Don’t blame yourself for your mistakes; learn from them. Learn to be happy with yourself. If you have made mistakes it is because you are truly living. Think about it in the sense that you are not trapped in a bubble in which nothing ever goes wrong. Live life, make mistakes, and learn from them.
7. Be brave
If you start something new, like a new relationship or a new job, with fear and dread, it doesn’t stand much of a chance to go well. When you see people who have found their dream job or met the love of their life, don’t say that it is because you haven’t gotten lucky that you don’t have these things. It is likely that that person worked very hard for that job, or that their relationship grew into a beautiful one but wasn’t always perfect. Follow their example, be brave, work hard, and think positively.
Be receptive to change. Change can bring with it good luck.
The moral of the story: Being lucky depends on you more than you think…
