Starting Today, I Will Give Myself a Chance

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Starting Today, I Will Give Myself a Chance
Gema Sánchez Cuevas

Written and verified by the psychologist Gema Sánchez Cuevas.

Last update: 22 March, 2024

I’m tired of being the last person I take care of. It’s exhausting being there for everyone else, but never for myself. I’m always afraid I’m bothering people if I tell them something they don’t want to hear. But enough: I’m done with this. Starting today, I am going to give myself a chance.

I want to get rid of all the worries I carry inside that are making me be who I’m not. By caring so much about what others think, I’ve been hiding my true identity. I also want to stop feeling guilty and like I’m disappointing everyone. It’s time to put away this mask covering up my real identity. I don’t want to be in the shadows anymore or be a “yes man” or “yes woman”. Starting today, I’ll start to give myself a chance.

“Until you value yourself you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”.

-M. Scott Peck-

Loving myself and putting myself first

From now on I’m going to start loving myself. It won’t be easy, since I tend to criticize myself and blame myself for almost everything. However, I’ll do it little by little, slowly but steadily. Most importantly, I will do it the right way.

“You have criticized yourself for years, and it has not worked. Try flattering yourself and see what happens”.

-Louise L. Hay-


When I give myself a chance: freedom.

Every day, instead of beating myself up about everything I did wrong, I will congratulate myself for everything I did right. I’m talking about getting a new perspective and seeing myself differently — with pride in myself.

Maybe I’m not good at it yet; maybe it will be really hard. But if I never start, how will I ever see myself as the valuable human being I am?Making myself a priority matters.

Another thing I will do is accept myself. Exactly the way I am. I will give myself permission to be the person I am inside, the one who until now was terrified of going outside and risking rejection. I will show myself as I am. And I will do it not only for myself, but for the whole world. I will be the same person with others as I am by myself.

Lastly, the most important promise I will make is to prioritize myself. I’ll ask myself, “how are you doing?” and “what do you really want?” Then I’ll decide based on that. Not like what I have been doing, asking only how others were and what they wanted. I would then act according to that.

I have decided to give myself a chance: to be myself; free and real.


I deserve to be happy

If there is anything I deserve that I have denied myself up until now, it is happiness. That’s why I’m going to give myself a chance. I will be there for myself and look deeply into my own eyes, so that what I do is aligned with my desires and needs. There’s no looking back: I’m going to open up, hold my own hand and never let it go. I want to be my own friend, my own support and my own shelter.

“When you’re at peace with yourself and love your self, it is virtually impossible to do things to yourself that are destructive”.

-Wayne Dyer-

I will forgive myself all the times that I picked myself last or not at all. I will forgive myself the times when I knew what I wanted but betrayed myself. Because if I want to be happy, I need to be at peace with myself.


Once I have made peace with myself, once I feel authentic and I’m valuing myself enough to show myself as I am, I will begin to create my happiness. Because if I’ve learned anything in my years of life, it’s that this wonderful feeling is not going to come knocking on my door. I have to adopt happiness as an attitude towards life. So I will love and prioritize myself… and appreciate the little things in life that have always been there but gone unnoticed.

“Happiness is inward, and not outward; and so, it does not depend on what we have, but on what we are. ”
-Pablo Neruda-

Just as I will allow myself to be happy, I will also allow myself to be sad. I’ll embrace any emotion I feel will and that’ show I’ll understand myself better, and others too. Because if I give myself a chance, I’m really also giving it to others.


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