Find Personal Spaces to Give You the Peace You Need
“Focus on the journey not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” This quote from athlete Greg Anderson reminds us that sometimes we set goals and obsess over them, even at the cost of our own well-being. When this occurs, it can be helpful to have personal spaces that can offer some peace and quiet.
Try to see your life as a journey. In general, it’s fun and full of new discoveries, findings, and places to explore. But there are also times when nothing goes as desired or planned.
Unfortunate situations often have nothing to do with us, but it is in our hands to find the solution. To help with this, we’re going to enter the world of Pilar Jericó, a writer who proposes the use of personal spaces, which she calls “personal spas,” to face problems. Find out more below!
The importance of personal spaces
Personal spaces, or personal spas, are vital for everyone. When your problems start to multiply quickly and uncontrollably, which could very well happen sooner or later, you have to know how to live with them and how to avoid losing your balance.
“The art of living lies less in eliminating our troubles than in growing with them.”
-Bernard M. Baruch-
Jericó knows a lot about this as a businesswoman, lecturer, writer, and social media personality. She’s encountered all kinds of situations throughout her long professional career, so it seems important to hear what she has to say.
Thanks to personal spaces, problems can be viewed as opportunities for growth. That doesn’t mean you have to be enthusiastic about conflict, but if you rationalize it, you can find the energy you need to face the situation and even leave reinforced and enriched by it.
Pilar Jericó’s personal spas
For Jericó, a personal spa is a place, either physical or emotional, where you can regain strength. Instead of seeking entertainment that would numb you to the conflict, it’s better to find a place helps you find inner peace and obtain the energy you need to deal with the problem. She highlights three main places:
Jericó calls them “spa friendships” because they initiate the release of endorphins. Her evidence of this personal space is based on a study done by Katerina Johnson from the University of Oxford, which showed that endorphins can numb pain even better than morphine.
It makes you feel good to be with people you love and who love you. Therefore, toxic friendships and relationships of obligation should be removed from this personal space. You have to be with the people who really make you feel good and give you the strength to face your problems.
The second place Jericó points out is centered on interests. Sports, manual labor, reading, art, film… All of these interests or forms of entertainment are ideal for emptying your mind and focusing on the activity, not on the preoccupation you feel.
And don’t forget, at any moment, you could have a valuable learning experience that could help you face your problems. Your interests can help you develop new ideas and find novel approaches to adversity.
Lastly, Jericó recommends what she calls spa spaces, or places where you feel really good. Out in nature, your favorite library, a friend’s house, a temple…
Finding personal spaces that make you feel good can be a source of inspiration. You can even make a little hideout in your house. Create a small, impenetrable sanctuary that’s special because of its lighting or location.
“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
In summary, Jericó describes personal spaces not as a place to escape from your problems, but as a brief stopping point where you can calm down, focus, and confront them. If you can take some distance, it will be much easier to find solutions. So when everything seems to fall apart, remember to temper the situation. Keep calm and find the best way out without losing your balance.