When You Fall in Love, Let It Invade You

When You Fall in Love, Let It Invade You
Gema Sánchez Cuevas

Written and verified by the psychologist Gema Sánchez Cuevas.

Last update: 28 July, 2022

I love you, and I don’t know why, or how long I have, or for how long I will. But I do know that I feel free, that I’m me and that I’m happy. You let me fly, make me dream. I want to share with you happy or sad moments, exciting or dull. I want to see how life flows. I want love to invade me.

We have all felt this way at some point, and due to fear we’ve asked ourselves a thousand questions: Why does he like me? What will the relationship be like? Will we fight? What do I do if he leaves me?

Love is a risk

Every time we fall in love, we’re running a risk. It’s a risk that makes us afraid, but we shouldn’t let doubts and restlessness invade our mind and keep us from enjoying the moment. We have to face the uncertainty over whether the other person feels the same way or that they’ll abandon us.

If you don’t live in the moment, if you don’t risk feeling something for someone, you’ll never know what it is to be in the clouds. To smile all of the time, to make love, to feel passion. There is no guarantee that it’ll turn out okay, nor that it will last, nor that the other person will feel the same way. But, it’s worth it.

colorful man and woman

What happens when you fall in love?

When you fall in love, you’ll feel that the world is different, that your body is different and that everything moves to a different rhythm. There are some reactions or signs that show us that we’re falling in love. They are the following:

You idealize the other person

Many times we see what we want to see in the other person. Maybe we see what’s missing within us or what we desire. With the passage of time it can produce a disappointment when the person we thought we saw doesn’t really exist. They are different and, therefore, we don’t feel the same way about them.

It can also be that we see that person in a much more rational way, just as they are, and we like them. This way, the relationship is more realistic.

You’re scared of being rejected

We’re all scared of being rejected, but if we don’t try, we’ll never know what will happen. Reciprocity in love is very complicated, because it involves many factors. Sometimes the timing isn’t right, sometimes it’s not the right person. Sometimes we run away simply out of fear.

Fear is the reflection of our protection instinct. It’s normal for it to be present, but it must have boundaries. It’s important that we determine how far it can go, so that it doesn’t paralyze us.

Your body reacts

Our behavior gives us away when we’re in front of something we like. We look at that person without noticing, how they move, how they talk, how they dress. We feel invaded by a great emotion every time we see that person. It’s something you feel in your chest, overwhelming you. We feel clumsy. We blush.

Close your eyes and let love invade you…

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Letting yourself get taken away by your feelings is an extraordinary sensation. It’s important to live in the present and not be too obsessed about the future. It’s always uncertain. It’s best to focus on the here and now.

The psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi has developed the concept of “flow,” which symbolizes a state in which we focus on the activity at hand and enjoy it. To do this, you have to concentrate completely on the activity you’re currently doing, as if you have lost the notion of space and time. So, enjoy your present, what you feel in this very moment. Don’t worry about how you’ll feel tomorrow, because you don’t know. And thinking about that uncertainty will keep you from seeing this marvelous moment.

And never forget that love doesn’t involve suffering. It’s not necessary to suffer for love. Love should be enjoyed, lived. It should make you happy, content, make you have fun and get to know different sensations. Do you dare to fall in love?

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.