Every Wound Is A Victory

· May 15, 2016

Throughout our lives, we have to go through a series of steps in order to mature, grow and become what we really want to be.

Each step is a lesson. But what happens when we get stuck in one of those steps? When we do not move forward in our life, we stay static and maybe lost, without knowing where we should go or what to do. Why not overcome it, what is it that is happening to us?

“It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn’t matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over.”

-Paulo Coelho-

In our lives, we go through happy moments, but also sad and traumatic ones that give us wounds and scars. We have to embrace those moments to keep moving on in our lives and to overcome the phase we find ourselves in. It is time to get off the train.

I am getting off at the next station

We have to be strong order to move through the phases that every single one of us goes through in our lives. But, in order to do this, it is important to know what phases we are talking about.

  • Childhood is the first step that allows us to observe and investigate the world that we live in.
  • Adolescence is the second step in which we experience our emotions in an intense way.
  • Youth and adult life are the third step that plunges us into a world of responsibilities and decisions.
  • Old age is the last of these steps, when we can look back on memories and stories.

These are the four important stages that we have all gone through at some point. Curiously, going from childhood to adolescence is something most of us can move through without too much difficulty. But when we arrive to adulthood, things gets complicated.

There are a lot of people who decide to stay in adolescence, where we can avoid the responsibilities and decisions that relentlessly plague adults.


Woman Looking Out Train Window

In the same way, how many people are there who want to stay an adult, rejecting the old age that comes immediately after?

We can decide to stay in one stage, but this is not the natural course of life and choosing to do this will have its consequences.

“Live every stage of your life intensely, because the past is the past, do not suffer for what it could be.

-Ivelisse Guerrero-

By means of a very simple example: Do we know why the terrible midlife crisis occurs? Why so many people at that age act like adolescents?

The fear of what will come, the inexorable passage of time that flies and flies with no end frightens us and opens great wounds of frustration and powerlessness that we have to heal.

Heal your wounds, turn them into victories

When we remain stagnant in one sage, be it out of comfort, fear, trauma, or some other reason, a wound appears within us for not living life like we wanted to or should.

Have you ever felt the sensation of not having dreams anymore? That nothing makes sense? We can feel this in any stage of our lives and in some cases, it can lead to depression.

Victory on Mountain Top

But we have to know that in each stage of life, there are going to be positive things, but also negative things. Things that will make us ready – or not – to move into the next train car.

Accept that it is normal to feel hurt sometimes by the passage of time, by the stress of our worries, by the fear of acquiring responsibilities…But, solve this!

Staying in one stage will do nothing more than feed that open wound. In order to form a scar, we have to see beyond this. Only in this way can we keep moving forward in our lives, even if we are lugging around a backpack full of scars from our life lessons.

However, if you overcome one stage, make sure that you have formed a good scar over your wound, for these can break open at any moment, and that will doubtlessly be much more painful.

My wounds have taught me that staying is not the solution, but rather, it is by moving on that I will understand that for which I was once lacking comprehension.

Always move forward in your life, even if it hurts, even if the path is difficult. Form a scar on that wound from your past that you now see as one more lesson in life.

Do not let yourself stay in one train car, quiet, while the locomotive keeps chugging along the tracks. Time goes by and we have to learn to walk and progress, always moving toward the last train car and full of happiness.