Don't Let It Get Away Because of Fear!
“If you don’t realize what it’s worth, life is trivial, if you keep letting escape what you most wanted…” Well, yes, songs and popular wisdom are full of great truths and one of these is that sometimes, fear paralyzes us.
Stepping outside our comfort zone takes a lot of work and terrifies us. Taking risks frightens us. However, if we don’t, we’ll never known whether maybe on the other side of the mountains, a better landscape is waiting us, a more beautiful one with more light and more colors, different…
It might be a new job, a new beau who loves us the way we deserve to be loved, opportunities we’ve waited our whole lives for….
If you believe that it’s really worth the effort don’t let it get away! Life is like a Russian roulette. It is responsible for distributing fortune. But never regret what you did; regret what you didn’t do.
When you make important decisions, crucial for your life, the simple satisfaction of having overcome fear of the unknown will make you grow as a person. You will feel much better and your self-esteem will feel like a balloon inflated by the happiness of having done it.
Remember when you were just a kid and it was scary to start swimming, to get on a bike, your first day of school…or when you wondered what your first kiss would be like and you were afraid of whether or not you would be good enough for the soccer team. Any time when you took a risk and accomplished something. Surely you felt much better, right?
As adults it’s the same. Fear is often only in your head; you are often your worst enemy. You and the obstacles that you impose upon yourself, often higher than what they really are. We love telling ourselves stories filled with terror and fear, pride and shame…but don’t let it get away!
Don’t let love get away if it comes, don’t leave that job for fear that you aren’t good enough… Breathe deeply, look at yourself in the mirror, smile, and keep going… don’t let it get away!
Because if we really think about, life doesn’t actually have that many secrets… you just have to be willing to find them out…
And often, if life has meaning, it is because of those marvelous opportunities that come by surprise and that rejuvenate us like the best face-lift, but a “face-lift for the soul,” so keep moving!
“Love casts out fear; but conversely fear casts out love. And not only love. Fear also casts out intelligence, casts out goodness, casts out all thought of beauty and truth. What remains is dumb desperation, for in the end fear casts out even a man’s humanity.”
How to conquer fear
Fear is something natural in humans: fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of change… but when it is excessive and paralyzes us, we have to face it. And how can we do that?
- Accept that you are afraid, it’s fine. It’s the first step in recognizing and confronting it.
- Really identify your fear. What is it that scares you?
- Think about the worst thing that could happen if things don’t turn out like you’re hoping and how you could fix it. That will give you confidence. For example: “If I change jobs and it doesn’t go well, how many months of unemployment can I still get? What job could I do until I find something stable again?
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear”