To Coexist in Peace, You Must Add Not Subtract

I'm at that point in my life where half truths, false appearances and profit-seeking beings are simply exhausting. This world is oftentimes nurtured by dark days and intermittent people. Therefore, I want company that knows how to add, not subtract. I desire bonds that will be my lighthouse in order to build a more free horizon, full of hope. Experts in social psychology and leadership remind us of a sensation that we have all experienced at least once. Undoubtedly, some people cause an undefinable impact when they enter a room. At times, the famous expression "having an inner light" seems authentic, believable. They are presences that, for some reason, transmit tranquility and harmony. "We come into this world to coexist in harmony. Those who know this fact, don't fight among themselves." -Buddha- What is cognitive awareness? The person that exerts this positive influence has chosen this state consciously. They are in good standing with themselves, there are no conflicts, no rancor. There only exists an inner balance that they can transmit to the people around them. These people are, without a doubt, individuals that know how to add. They bring cohesion into every scenario and make their small surroundings flow. Usually, they are very skilled when it comes to "opening their emotional umbrellas". In turn, this protects them from the evil acts of others, manipulations and guilt traffickers. We invite you to reflect upon this and, above all, to learn some strategies from this kind of person. Knowing how to add and coexist implies setting boundaries We live in a complex world, in territories blessed with an energetic load. This load can be positive or negative based on the type of human interaction that takes place within it. We also know that certain labels are very popular nowadays. Such as the classic "toxicity" or "toxic people". However, beyond those polemic terms, one thing is clear, and we have to accept it. There will always be people that will fill our existence with bitterness, directly or indirectly. There are people who don't know how to add. We know it. Friends, coworkers or family members who don't understand, nor will they ever understand, that in order to coexist, it's not enough to just attend to and satisfy your own personal needs at any cost. It should be said, nevertheless, that sometimes, behind that "supposed" toxic person there is a concrete problem. For example, disguised depression, which without a doubt requires our empathy. We must read between the lines and not automatically jump to conclusions. That place where we leave some people alone with their miseries. On the other hand, for others we must use our shields in order to not get impregnated by negativity. Coexisting also requires knowing how to understand and be empathetic. It is not about setting limits without first knowing what is the root of the discrepancy. People who know how to shine, people who know how to coexist We spoke at first about people who know how to shine and who make use of cognitive awareness. Above all, it's a truly useful tool that we should all learn how to put into practice. We should all learn how to make it our own in order to provide our everyday environments with an energy that creates cohesion. An energy which also gives us the opportunity to defend ourselves with respect, with authentic emotional intelligence. Great is he who in order to shine doesn't need to turn off other people's light. Up next, we invite you to reflect upon the dimensions that give shape to this behavior so full of harmony, of inner balance. How to develop healthy and useful cognitive awareness In order to create a good impact in our everyday contexts and favor that need for cohesion, it is necessary to first "fill ourselves with cohesion". That is to say, to know what is happening in our inner world. We should learn to be more cognitively aware. In order to add and not subtract, we shouldn't pay attention only to the outside world. It's not solely about living with all the good will you can muster to help others and "do good". He who focuses only on the exterior usually neglects himself, and the harmony is also lost. It is necessary, therefore, to develop an authentic inner tranquility, to remember what your values are, what your strengths are. Always reaffirm your self-esteem, as that lighthouse that you should always keep within sight. On the other hand, it is also a very positive thing to put into practice an appropriate sensorial awareness. We should intuit, feel and know how to understand the emotions of others, feelings that often surround and imprison us. A person that knows how to shine, that knows how to add, is capable of understanding and deciphering their emotional world in order to channel it. They will develop a respectful and appropriate "emotional detachment" towards people who bring conflicts, criticism and unfounded bitterness. Likewise, they will know how to empathize with people who camouflage their real needs through hostility or a bad mood. Because, this is where loneliness, fear, and depression often hide. Create bridges, don't put up boundaries In conclusion, true coexistence doesn't imply creating boundaries or ignoring what we don't like or understand. It's all about creating bridges and respecting different opinions. Coexistence is about understanding people who suffer in silence and making shine those who at times fall into a dark cloud of bewilderment. Authentic distance will be saved for when we have been caused authentic harm. Because in this life, those who know how to add are no one's prisoners. They are people who are free, happy to be who they are. People who, in turn, are capable of transmitting their well-being to the people around them.