Are You With Your Ideal Partner?

Are You With Your Ideal Partner?

Last update: 18 April, 2017

One of the most beautiful quotes about love was originally said by the great Pablo Neruda: “With one kiss, you’ll know everything I’ve kept quiet.” Do you think there’s anyone in your life who deserves such words to be said about them? If the answer is yes, today we’re going to do a simple test to determine whether you’re with your ideal partner.

One of the most famous analogies in the world is that life is like a trip. It’s obvious that every trip is much more fun and enjoyable when you’re in good company. But if it’s with someone you love, it can be incredible.

How to know if you’re with your ideal partner

Without getting into the specific reasons, it’s clear that most people tend to partner up. However, this isn’t always the best solution. Some people don’t know themselves well enough, and others find a partner just so they don’t feel alone. Sooner or later, these relationships all end up shipwrecked.

girl in boy's arm

Over time, inadequate relationships devolve into unpleasant states of loneliness, pain, misunderstanding, and distress. This is isn’t always easy to digest.

For this reason, Borja Vilaseca, an expert in personal development, invites us to consider the 4 Cs (each word begins with ‘c’ in the original Spanish), which can be used as a simple compatibility test. The 4 Cs will provide you with great information about your affinity with a person or partner.

However, this test is useless if it isn’t done within a context of deep understanding. So before anything else, be sure that you’re in a calm and reflective state. This is the only way to accurately measure your physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual compatibility with the other person.

The 4 Cs: a compatibility test

To know if you’re with the ideal partner, take a look at the 4 Cs. Let’s begin the search for close compatibility with a loved one. Answer each one honestly to see the results of your relationship with someone you love.

Bed (Cama)

The first C is related to physical compatibility. In this basic, instinctive component, we must think about what reactions are produced in the brain during sexual arousal. But remember that we can’t just stop at the initial feelings. It’s important for the desire to last over time. Therefore, it’s necessary to analyze the quality and quantity of every sexual encounter to know if there’s real chemistry.

“Never forget that the first kiss is not given with the mouth, but with the eyes.”

-O. K. Bernhardt-

Heart (Corazón)

The second C is related to emotional compatibility. In this case, it’s related to the affection in the relationship. If you have close communication with that person and their mere presence brightens your day, you have a good connection. Over time, you still enjoy their silences and hugs, their smell and touch.

affectionate couple

Head (Cabeza)

The third C is related to intellectual compatibility. This doesn’t mean that you have to think the same, but just that you understand each other. In reality, solid relationships have their foundation in friendship, which is based on trust. Your partner should be someone with whom you can share happy moments, express regrets, and have common concerns and interests. You don’t always have to agree, but it is necessary to have some affinity in certain subjects and tastes.

“Love is not only wanting, but also understanding.”

-Françoise Sagan-

Consciousness (Consciencia)

Last but not least, the fourth C is related to spiritual compatibility. How do you view your existence? Do you have dreams and aspirations? Where are your goals headed? It’s clear that an ideal partner should go in the same direction as you. For this, it’s important that you share motivations, needs, and a common understanding of coexistence and personal growth.

To conclude, the main ingredient in a relationship should be loveBeyond that, this compatibility test can be useful to learn about all the other aspects that govern the relationship. If you positively identify with all of them, you’re probably with the ideal partner. Take care of your world together and enjoy the experience.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.