If you have ever been fully submerged in the voracious swirl of a toxic relationship, surely you will understand what we are about to share in this article. First of all,
we will try to define what a toxic relationship is and what it implies in the lives of those who suffer through it.
A toxic relationship always has something that “makes up for it” for us
It’s that type of union which we maintain with someone and from which we are not capable of escaping.
It is a union that is very strong, intense and destructive at the same time. We lose ourselves in it. And we become someone we are not. We seek to remain in it, even when this implies suffering most of the damage. Or, even worse, even if it implies the loss of our self-love.
Logically, if we are involved in that relationship, it is because there is a big benefit. Or at the very least, it contains something we are not ready to give up yet. A benefit powerful enough to prevent the breaking of the relationship. However, if we were capable of looking at it from a perspective which allowed us to behold the overall picture, we would be able to conclude something important.
The toxicity this relationship is exerting on our lives merits for us to modify the relationship or end it.
I can also recover my lost responsibility and act accordingly
In general, we tend to place the blame on our significant other.
“He is the toxic one”, “She is the toxic one, not me”, “I have given him too many opportunities, and he is incapable of changing. I do not know what else to do”. There might not be anything left to do…maybe the healthiest, most beneficial and loving option for yourself is to end the relationship. Do not insist in reviving a relationship that does not have a pulse anymore. A heart that is no longer sending oxygenated blood.
Getting out of a toxic relationship requires a monumental effort
This is why getting out of a relationship of this caliber is a superhuman feat. First of all, because we realize that
we do not have any power over the other person (a really common belief of many people: “I am going to make him change”).