Affection Is Powerful Medicine
Affection is without a doubt one the best medicines. Haven’t you ever felt worse after a doctor’s visit than before you went in? Or, on the contrary, have you ever left a doctor’s visit feeling like you were suddenly cured? And it all depends on the attitude of the doctor who attends you.
When we are sick, we are vulnerable, and it’s in these situations that most vulnerable situations one can the tact, humanity and affection can make all the difference. Without a doubt, you can’t simply cure an illness with treatments and pills. Affection is an essential addition. Don’t give me pills for anxiety or depression. Don’t prescribe me the latest antidepressive on the market. Treat me with affection. You’ll be my doctor, my soul doctor. Give me a hug, a kiss, or simply a word, but only if it comes from your heart… no substitutes will do…
You say you’re my friend, but I can never seem to find you. Not in your words, or in your absent-minded gaze. But, he who has never boasted of it. I can find him in his sweet words and his clean stare.
But it’s not just doctors. We can all be doctors of the soul and body for others, just with our attitudes. In fact, it’s been proven that positive emotions relax you, produce wellbeing, lower blood pressure, and help maintain our defenses.
On the other hand, negative emotions can turn into intestinal pain, migraines, anxiety, insomnia and ultimately a weakened immune system. That’s why affection plus positive emotions is no doubt one of the best medicines.
A long hug, nice compliment, a simple “count on me” said sincerely, can help heal your soul and body. As the Romans said, “Mens sana in corpore sano.” This means “A healthy mind means a healthy body.” If we all pitch in, we could make this saying come true when we need it the most.
But, where can I find this affection?
Affection can’t be bought or sold. We can’t make others give or show us affection that they don’t feel. And we also can’t give affection if it doesn’t come from the deepest part of our being. But we all have the ability to give affection by cultivating empathy and selflessness.
Also, we can all receive affection, many times unexpectedly and from whom we least expect it. Trust them and the affection they give.
Your intuition, powerful tool that helps us find a thousand solutions, will also help you perceive where you can find affection.
In any case, up next we offer you some tips to find affection wherever you may go:
1. Surround yourself with people you know truly appreciate you. Friends that know how to listen to and understand you. People who you often laugh with. Laughter is a powerful medicine that also draws us together during hard times.
2. Make friends with children. If you empathize with them, children will offer you affection and love in a pure, sincere, and selfless way. Many times, you can establish invincible bonds with children loaded with great doses of love and empathy.
3. Make friends with the elderly. The elderly are wells of wisdom. They speak to you from a place of experience. And if you pay attention, you’ll see that within them there’s a kind of grandparent for each of us. If you chat with them, you’ll feel how they take you in as another one of their grandchildren.
Talk with those special elders close to you that are also willing to help you out. Besides, they’ll feel useful and you’ll also be helping them by letting them know you feel great by their side.
4. Good neighbors and friends. Talking to good people, chatting, a “Hi, how are you?” with those around you will also help. It’s not good to be isolated for too long.
And most importantly, give away doses of affection on a daily basis. Give love away to others… Because many times you simply need to give to receive.