9 Phrases To Say To Your Partner Today

· February 1, 2016

It’s a basic principle: for a relationship to last, our exchanges with our partner must come from a place of affection, understanding and confidence.  Sometimes we forget all of that and routine lets us relax certain expressions of love, respect and the mutual consideration that we must never allow to disappear.  In this article we’re reminding you of the importance of nine phrases that should always be present in your day to day life.

1. “I Miss You”

To miss someone is not to be empty, but to be full of someone who’s present even though they’re absent.”

This phrase hides a great value; when the people we love say these words we feel that we bring something to them that only we can give.  To express how much we miss their kiss, their touch, their smile or simply their presence is essential to keep love alive.

2. “How Was Your Day?”

“Indifference is a form of sloth, and sloth in its turn is one of the symptoms of lovelessness.  One isn’t lazy about what one loves.”
-Aldous Huxley-

It’s a way to guarantee that we have a space in which we can share our daily experiences and concerns.  This doesn’t mean that we come in each day in a spiral of complaints or with a sense of self-aggrandizement.  It means that we have the opportunity to express our feelings to another person who’s truly interested.

3. “Do You Remember When…?”

“Many times in life people forget what they should remember and remember what they should forget.”

The act of remembering great moments together helps to ensure that we don’t lose the magic over the years.  In reality remembering is a good way to generate new good experiences, leading us to reinvent new ways to unite ourselves and feel good together.

4. “How Can I Help You?”

“Don’t look for someone to solve all of your problems, look for someone who won’t leave you to face them alone.”


This speaks to finding a way in which we can help our partner in the face of frustration and the lack of control.  We can give our help with an act as simple as asking.

In the first place, your partner will understand that they aren’t alone and that they can lean on you; that’s very important to remember sometimes.  Also, they have the great privilege of knowing that your help is sincere and without hope of personal gain, and this is one of the most calming sensations one can have.

5. “What Do You Think?”

“When you don’t speak, many things are left unsaid.”  
-Catalina Gilbert-

We forget this with great frequency.  Both members of the couple must be and feel that they are participants in both the small and large decisions.  It’s essential that we are autonomous and independent, but when you’re a couple and you must make a decision, both members have something to say.

Also, recognizing that a decision affects both the relationship and each person individually, sharing opinions keeps the ship afloat because of the shared confidence and security.

6. “I Love (fill-in-the-blank) About You”

“A bomb makes more noise than a caress, but for every bomb that destroys, there are thousands of caresses that build life.”  
-Facundo Cabral-

Compliments are an essential part of a couple’s relationship.  Speaking flattering words makes your partner feel loved and valued, and it makes them smile.  It’s essential to remind them that you love their face, their body, that you love to caress them, kiss them and share intimate moments.

7. “I’m Sorry. You’re Right.”

“The perfect couple isn’t the one that never has problems but, despite the problems, they’re always together.”

When we argue and make mistakes we sometimes become stubborn and tend to forget that humility and confidence are the basis for a good relationship. Don’t let problems turn into an eternal conflict; seek to resolve it as soon as possible from a place of humility.

Pride has no place in matters of love; in fact, if there’s an excess of it, it eats us up inside.  Remember that “forgiveness falls like a soft rain from heaven to earth.  Bless the one who gives it and the one who receives it.”

8.  “Please” and “Thank You”

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.  If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you’ll never ever have enough.”
-Oprah Winfrey-

There’s a huge difference between saying “Take out the trash!” and saying “Honey, please, take out the trash.”  The first option may be left open to interpretation, while in the second you feel the affection and understanding.

Speaking from a place of affection, without reproach, is one of those small daily details that allow us to feel good and grow as a couple.

9. “I Love You”

“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
-Steve Maraboli-

These are the three star words.  No one can take their great meaning and symbolism from them.  These three words mark the beginning of true love, express recognition of the bond that unites us and are an expression of the energy between us.

Don’t underestimate the power of day to day, because that’s what builds our love.  Always remember that loving deeply gives us strength, but deeply feeling love gives us value.

“Those who love with the heart only speak with the heart.”

— Francisco de Quevedo