5 Tips to Make a Relationship Work

5 Tips to Make a Relationship Work

Last update: 05 December, 2015

Nowadays, heartbreak and relationship problems are one of the most common problems seen in psychological consults. Cheating, jealousy, emotional dependency and poor cohabitation eventually make a relationship break up forever.

If we take a look back, we’ll notice that this didn’t happen a couple years ago. In yesteryear, the majority of couples lasted a lifetime, despite all of the adversities that could exist between the two members. And this was mostly due to the fact that the woman depended on the man almost completely. The woman still hadn’t joined the workforce. Therefore, she had to remain by her spouses side, caring for the house and the children.

Luckily, that panorama has changed greatly. The problem is that this has made many couples put an end to their relationship much earlier. It has also made the psychological problems resulting from these breakups much more common.

There are some statistics that show that couples today won’t last more than ten years. And this is mainly due to poor cohabitation and lack of communication.

Thought the perfect relationship doesn’t exist and that’s something we have to admit, here we offer you some tips that can help your relationship work better:

5 tips to make your relationship work

No demands

It’s very important, if you wan’t your relationship to work, that you be very tolerant with the other person. Sometimes, we demand things from our partner as if we were their owner. And the truth is that this is not the case, because no one belongs to anyone else.

We have to be aware that we’re humans, that sometimes we make mistakes. And that it’s much more positive for the couple if you’re comprehensive and emphatic with the other person and don’t demand that they act or be how we’d like them to be.

This doesn’t mean that we can’t suggest that they act a certain way. But being clear on the difference between a demand and a suggestion is essential to making everything flow better and paradoxically, it makes the other person more willing to change or modify certain things we don’t like.

Sometimes we don’t like being pressured into doing something. However, if we’re suggested to make a change and we’re shown the advantages of this change, we might take it a different way.

couple at the beach sunset

The past is in the past and it no longer exists. Therefore, there’s no point in going around and around about something that’s no longer in your significant other’s life. You won’t be able to resolve that past event. The only thing you’ll obtain is suffering and pain for both of you.

Hair in the shower, leaving the top off the toothpaste or the closet being a mess shouldn’t be big problems if we take them with a bit a humor.