He Who Smiles Is Always Stronger Than He Who Gets Angry
They say that you live in what you focus your attention on, which is why it seems logical that we should try to solve what is throwing us off balance rather than spending our days tempting the law of gravity. One of the things that throws us off the most are disputes, and the best way to come out ahead after these is to act with the serenity of he who smiles and not through impulsive or getting angry.
When a situation overwhelms you and you feel like you do not know “where to start,” nothing but patience, together with a certain degree of optimism, can help you overcome this problem without great harm. If you choose negativity, it can cause you unnecessary emotional imbalance, giving rise to more stress, more anxiety, and more anger.
Smile with serenity if you want to achieve something
Sometimes we find ourselves immersed in an argument, a bit agitated, and most of the time, this tends to be with a family member or a friend. This makes the tension greater because a badly handled disagreement can lead to results that we would never want.
Faced with these or other similar situations, there are two possibilities: we can lose control of the situation or rationalize it as well as possible. Opting for one or the other depends on our strength to control our impulsivity and to keep our head as much as possible. In this sense, it is much healthier to make use of an open mind that will lead us to “calm waters.”
“It’s easier to get what you want with a smile than with the sword.”
It is not a question of one person winning and the other losing, but the lesson that will be taken away by he who acted with greater serenity will be much more enriching for the future: peaceful dialogue, a well timed smile, and relaxed behavior in response to agitation will be useful in other, similar situations that we confront. This is why we say, “Smile with serenity if you want to achieve something.”
Getting mad is a dead-end street
Anger leads to dead-end situations. Getting mad stops us from listening and being listened to, and it also does not let us understand or be understood.
As such, arguments arise when the conversation changes tone suddenly. Then our voices rise and we do not look beyond our own ego. Neither of the involved parties stops to think if it is possible that he is wrong, if he is trying to impose his ideas rather than convey them, and if he is taking as granted interpretations that may not line up with reality.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
Anger clouds the mind of the angry person and makes him believe that it is not possible for him to be wrong. He also may not be aware that winning the fight will not bring him anything because he will not have learned what the other person thinks or because it is likely that he will end up believing falsehoods.
Handling a difficult situation calmly
On the other hand, he who smiles in the face of complications will be stronger than he who gets angry. He will know that reflection and analysis are the best enemies for the arrogant attitude often brought about by anger.
Furthermore, he will gain experience looking for solutions to his problems and opening up to the tolerance that comes with having a broad range of relationships. It is important to know how to listen and respect that others may not think like us, as well as to keep in mind that we all make mistakes: sometimes with our words, other times with our actions.
It seems cliché, but learning to control our nerves at delicate times helps us channel the moments of rage that cannot be avoided. It is not a matter of seeing problems with others as if they did not exist, but rather learning to manage them in an efficient way.
“In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.”