A Short Film About How Love Changes Us

A Short Film About How Love Changes Us
Gema Sánchez Cuevas

Written and verified by the psychologist Gema Sánchez Cuevas.

Last update: 21 December, 2022

What happens when love suddenly appears in our lives? What happens to our hobbies and interests? Is it possible that they disappear or, on the contrary, do they stick around? What’s the best option?

Each one of us has a series of likes, hobbies and preferences that we forge throughout our lives. Some prefer to listen to music, while others would rather read. There are also those that enjoy dancing or, for example, like to take walks… There’s a whole universe of possibilities available to us to choose the things we prefer the most.

Then love arrives and two very different worlds unite by the force of attraction between two people. What’s the best way to make these two realities fit together? What can we do? Today we’ll present to you a short film that will make you reflect upon this…

And suddenly, love arrives

It might happen to you like it happened to our main character, that you love something or really enjoy some sport or hobby. So much so that your day to day doesn’t even make sense without dedicating at least a few minutes to it… Your routine is marked in some way by what we consider a passion, and you can’t conceive your life without it.

animated pig and chicken in love

But suddenly, love may arrive in your life without warning, as it often happens, and it shakes up the whole structure of your life. In fact, that person becomes the apple of your eye, because without knowing it they have broken all of your plans in order to offer you something new and wonderful to enjoy together: love.

Together you build a beautiful story full of things to share, precious experiences and unique moments. Your desire and infatuation transforms your day to day into something completely different than what you previously knew.

Maybe you no longer spend so much time on what you like or you might have even forgotten it. Because under the effects of “being in love” our thoughts focus constantly on the other person and on the desire of wanting to spend more time with him or her… Infatuation trumps our routine for the time being.

Love takes two, but we are each still one

It’s true that when we’re in love, we’re altered, since we tend to see the other person in an idealized way and dream with a bunch of experiences, where everything seems wonderful. But we have to try to get off that cloud or, over time, the force of the fall will be even greater…

pig and chicken at the movies

Not idealizing is nearly impossible when we’re prisoners of infatuation, but be careful of staying within this state for too long. Because the day you realize that the other person isn’t the way you expected, the frustration can be great and the disappointment can be brutal…

Another aspect to keep in mind is that when love appears, we don’t have to try to be someone we’re not. In a relationship, you have to be authentic and transparent, despite your fears. You can’t stop being who you are just so the other person will like you, because you’ll be betraying yourself in double-fold: the first and most important is to yourself and the second is towards the other person, in both you’re making yourself invisible.

Invisibility and trying to be ideal aren’t good ingredients for building a relationship. What makes you shine when you’re in love is your authenticity, being transparent through your gazes and being able to show the other person our inner lights, but also our shadows… to then be able to walk hand in hand on the path we’ve built together. Because the most important thing is being loyal to ourselves so that the other person can get to know us.

In love, having empathy is always important

If we stop to reflect for a second on love, we might be able to see the short film a different way. We’ll be able to relate it to the power that empathy can have over a relationship.

Within a couple, empathy is a power ally that favors the relationship. Being empathetic towards our life partner allows us to capture their emotional world and understand how they could be feeling at certain moments. And it would serve us as an indicator to know how to act and how to communicate with the other person. Putting ourselves in our partner’s shoes will strengthen our bond with them.

Like in this short, where the chicken seems to be sensitive and sad when she finds out that her partner enjoys eating eggs, which is precisely where she comes from… and without any demands, with a simple gesture, her partner captures her feelings and decides to put an end to his behavior, so that she won’t feel hurt…

Relationships are complicated, but that doesn’t make them any less beautiful. The important thing is to grow together while still being yourself.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.