Say These Things to Your Kids Every Day

· September 23, 2015

Words are powerful. We both interpret and articulate all of our thoughts and feelings through words, and they form the basis of our emotional world.

With your children particularly, the words you use have a deep impact. When you use language that communicates care and love it teaches your children to feel good about themselves and builds their self esteem and confidence. Sending supportive messages to your children and encouraging them when they speak is fundamental for their development and growth. As a parent, it’s important you communicate your feelings often, not only when you’re congratulating or correcting your children, and that you do so in a respectful and loving way.

Using loving and caring language not only strengthens your bond with your children, but it also elevates the quality of the parent-child relationship. It helps solidify the parent’s role as a guide and counselor, and helps children learn to listen and gain an understanding of themselves as humans.

So what should you say to your kids?

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I love you, I care about you, you make me happy.

Telling your children directly that you love them is the best emotional nourishment you can offer. It’s not enough that you know you love them, it’s important that you say it and that it becomes part of your everyday language. This makes children feel more secure and encourages open lines of communication.

It’s also important that you talk about how happy they make you. Children will carry this message with them throughout their lives and it helps make them feel protected and appreciated.

The less time you have and the more challenging and busy your life gets as a parent, the more important it is to find time to express your affection and love. You’ll find that it is benefits not only your children but you as well.  

I believe in you, I trust you, you can do it.

You give your children confidence when you tell them they are capable of doing something, and this is crucial for their development. Without this type of encouragement, children can develop fears and insecurities that they will carry with them throughout life.

You must support your children in their efforts and make them feel secure when they try new things so that when it comes to making important decisions later in life, they will trust themselves. With this inner trust, no matter what choices they make, they’ll believe in themselves and their decisions.

On the other hand, it’s important to remember that you must also offer support and encouragement in those moments when your children fail, feel frustrated, or experience challenges. It’s at these moments when your role as a parent is most important, and your support can give your children the courage they need to pick themselves back up and keep trying. 

You are special, you did a great job.

Frequent praise helps children develop self esteem and a sense of security. It’s important to let your kids know when they’ve done something well so that they begin to recognize their own abilities.

When you tell your kids that they’ve made a good decision or done something well it encourages them to continue to develop their independence and unique strengths. 

Telling your children how special they are encourages them to continue to make good decisions. Children appreciate their parents words of praise and love, and carry those messages with them throughout their lives, becoming adults who enthusiastically and courageously pursue their goals.