No Sex Drive? 5 Potential Reasons Why

· October 30, 2015

Why does a lack of sexual desire occur? Due to the stress of the lives we live, sexual desire can be diminished. What can we do about this?

Desire and sexual arousal go hand in hand. Therefore, desire is very important. Still, we can experience desire without arousal and, alternatively, feel aroused but not feel any desire.

In this article we’ll explain some of the causes and solutions to rid ourselves of a lack of sexual desire. Don’t miss out!

Love doesn’t forgive a lack of desire.
Francis Picabia

1. Fears about sex

Sexual desire can be diminished due to certain worries: becoming pregnant, not being good enough, a fear of embarrassing oneself, etc. These fears can be conscious or unconscious and could be generated by a trauma.

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The important thing is to acknowledge these fears so you can address them. The more we know about our own fears, the better we can face them. Don’t give in to them. Don’t allow your fears to keep you from enjoying a full and satisfactory sex life.

2. Stress and anxiety

As we previously mentioned, stress and anxiety are factors that contribute to a lack of sexual desire. Having an established routine or falling into a rut can also have this effect. Overworking, trapped in your routine…Don’t you think you deserve a break?

Working is a necessary and positive thing, but don’t let it guide and define your life. Don’t let stress and anxiety destroy your sexual desire to the point that it causes problems with your romantic partner.

3. Misguided beliefs about sex

Do you still feel ashamed of your genitals? Do you avoid certain positions because you think they are too obscene? Sex isn’t dirty. It’s not a bad thing. Leave those beliefs and taboos behind you and enjoy sex!

Thinking about prohibitions and limitations will only generate frustration within you. Open your mind and enjoy. Learn to stay away from prejudices that are culturally imposed on us.

4. Communication problems

Many couples suffer from communication problems. Couples need to talk to each other, to get to know each other more and to build trust. If not, how can sexual desire not be affected? It’s normal. Because slowly, the romantic partners become complete strangers.

couple in bed- woman with head in hands

5. Physical problems

Some people could experience an even bigger lack of sexual desire due to certain sexual problems that keep them from having pleasant or satisfactory sex. Problems such as impotence, vaginismus, traumas caused by past relationships, etc.

In these cases, paying a visit to the doctor is the best choice. A doctor will indicate a solution to your problem and show you how to resolve it. Don’t be afraid to go to the doctor and talk about your sexual problems. Don’t feel ashamed! You deserve to get your sexual desire back. Don’t miss the opportunity to do so!

Other causes that may reduce sexual desire

During various stages of our lives, sexual desire can be diminished, and we can’t do anything about it. Menopause, is a well-known example.

Now, this is when knowing how to face it plays an even more important role. Maybe seeing life from a more relaxed point of view could do you a lot of good, without obsessing over your lack of sexual desire.

Another example could be when women are menstruating. Between the pain and the discomfort, sexual desire is usually diminished. Likewise, several types of medication can cause a reduction in sexual desire.

How are these causes different from the ones above? These have a specific duration; they cause a temporary decrease in desire, but then it returns to normal. In contrast, if you struggle with numbers 1 through 5, and don’t address them, they may accompany you for the rest of your life.

Have you ever felt a lack of sexual desire? If so, were you able to solve it? How?