It’s Never Too Late to Say, So What?

· January 2, 2017

Things don’t always go well. Your relationship isn’t going well? Are you not getting along with your parents? Do you feel like nobody loves or respects you? Your job sucks? Did you have a complicated childhood or adolescence? If these and other things bring you down, it’s because you let them. But it is never too late to take the reins of your life again.

The way to confront your problems and focus on what comes afterwards is what makes the difference. It doesn’t matter how long your ghosts haunted you, nor does it matter how long you’ve been trying to overcome your fears. Whatever you think others are trying to impose on you doesn’t matter either. It is never to late to say, so what?

Understand in order to accept, accept in order to recover

Accepting the situation is the only thing that will allow you to recover. Only when you accept that things are the way they are and not how you would like them to be, will you find the necessary tools to face reality. Play the game with the cards you’ve been dealt. You don’t get to choose or stack the deck.

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But you have to understand the rules of the game, the strategy of the other players and the obstacles that emerge in order to play your cards. It doesn’t matter if there is a logical explanation. This is not about rationalizing the situation. It doesn’t matter if you don’t share, if you don’t agree or don’t understand why. What matters is that by accepting what you’ve been dealt, you will finally be able to recover, because you know where you came from.

Let go of your baggage

We can’t change what we have lived through or what has happened to us, but we can change the way we face what is to come. We can even modify the way we confront ourselves. That’s why the first thing we should do is forgive ourselves. You have to let go of your baggage in order to move forward.

Things aren’t the way you would like? So what? If you can’t do anything about it, why do you let it absorb you? Why do you let it keep defining you? It is never too late to change the way you see things. 

It is never too late to start over, to fall in love again, to make your dreams come true, to do what you desire, to discover yourself from within. It is never too late to let go of your baggage, no matter how much you have accumulated in your emotional backpack or how hard you may cling to it.

If it has to be like this, let it be

Insisting on changing things is not always an available choice or option. Really the only person you can change is yourself. Only by changing yourself is there a chance that you will inspire someone else to change. But until that change happens voluntarily, there is nothing left to do.

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Other times the circumstances are what they are and you can’t do anything to avoid them or change them. So you have to adapt, wait and not worry so much about the things you can’t do. There are many other things you should focus on in the mean time. Like for example, preparing yourself for what is to come.

 “Because after all, the best thing you can do when it is raining is to simply let it rain.”
– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow-

Walk forward without bearing the weight of things you should leave behind

If you don’t stop looking back, you’re going to miss out on the good things that await you along the way. Things don’t have to remain the same. You also don’t have to forget them. You only have to let them go, give them their due place in your story, without dragging them with you every step you take.

Maybe for the rest of the world your mistakes and your story are unforgivable and insurmountable. Maybe around you, you are not receiving the love that you desire. But the only thing that really matters is that you forgive yourself, that you love yourself. 

Don’t be dramatic. You don’t have the life you were expecting? So what? The one you have is full of opportunities, but you will only see them when you stop looking back towards the wrong side.