You Are Your Own Master Work, Work Hard On It
During your life on Earth, you have an important role, even if you insist on shrinking your existence through that excessive modesty that feeds disenchantment. Do not forget, you are your own master work. This is not a senseless ego injection. It is a basic reality so that despair stops taking up residence in your life. When you stop having hope, you lose everything.
Maybe you feel somewhat useless, sad, tired, embarrassed by the uncertainty in which your life occurs. But you must know that there are strategies to cure this. You are your own master work. Work hard on it.
Psychologist George Kelly created the Fixed Role technique, which revolves around the idea of giving a different role to a person who is “emotionally blocked” by a certain problem. The idea of this is that the person might experience it as an alternative to the role that they have built for themselves and that in some way, this will limit their mind’s search for alternatives.
This technique helps us to understand that in life, it is not about pretending to be another person to be happy, but maybe we must explore other alternatives that offer us our personality to stop manifesting the toxic part that prevents the emergence of anything positive.
The idea is that you are your own sculptor who, little by little, is giving shape and sculpting over time based on the knowledge and strategies that you have learned. You are your own master work.
Focusing on change
If you value yourself, it is time for you to assume that you need change and that those changes require persistence and commitment. For this, make a behavior plan:
- Be realistic with respect to your situation, but plan something that can improve it in the medium- to long-term.
- Keep your values in mind, what is important for you. Throughout the whole process, this is the only thing that will keep you afloat.
- Design a plan that sticks to your reality without neglecting your goal.
- Test it out for a while to know if it can be maintained in the long-term. This is a crucial step.
- Be aware that work on ourselves requires establishing habits, and these tend to be established in around a month.
- Choose the people you have around you in the best way possible. Be intelligent. You have to keep your emotional plot covered, but you also have to surround yourself with people who share new interests and goals with you. Remember that quantity is rarely the same as quality.
- Persistence, persistence, persistence. Establish small daily challenges and set up rewards if you complete them.
- Do not think about what you have left behind. Think about the options that we give up to follow a certain life plan only brings us uncertainty and discomfort about continuing to carry out the chosen option.
- Be careful about certain cognitive attributions, like the fallacy of divine recompense.
- Think about your goal as a fact, not a dream.
Suffering will not bring you your dream. Only effort will.
What are you passionate about? And what do you dislike?
If you know what things you are passionate about, do them often. If you also know which things you dislike, do them as little as possible, unless you have no other option due to duty, chance, or responsibility. This rule that seems so simple is what separates maturity from emotional masochism.
Another very important aspect to keep in mind is the fact that many behaviors that we are passionate about come along with others that are not so wise. For example, if reading a book implies smoking a cigarette at the same time. We have to make revisions to our habits not only to implement new ones, but also to improve those that already exist in such basic aspects as schedule, company, frequency, place, chosen time, etc.
Because if you are your own master work, what is it that you want to include in this?
Stop trying to turn the page. Close the whole book if you need to
Sometimes we try to draw out the positive side of the experiences we have, even if this part is not that big. It is good to stick to the teachings of hard moments, but because we sometimes want to be too selfless, we try to save a bit of everything that was destroyed to rescue our self-esteem. We think that something good can be rescued from everything bad. But if the flames were large and intense, do not dive into them again to try to save something. You will end up burning yourself.
Remember that every moment is a good one to take a canvas out in the sun and start painting it. That this canvas has a memory, but some conditions are optimal so that it can turn out as a work of art.
This is why you have to go out in the sun, spoil yourself, love yourself. Believe that your work is unfinished and maybe rather flawed due to the passage of time, but in reality, it is the empty canvas in the sunlight. That is your life and the truth. The rest is your mind, which always brings a bit of a lie and sometimes stop us from continuing to paint. You are your own master work; do not forget this.