Have You Heard of Happy Slave Syndrome?

Have You Heard of Happy Slave Syndrome?

Last update: 28 July, 2022

We all know what a slave is; a person whose freedom has been taken away. Just like people who suffer from Stockholm Syndrome, in which a kidnapped person establishes an emotional bond with their kidnapper, a slave can find that they are happy with their lack of freedom.

Do you want to know more about this syndrome? Could you be suffering from happy slave syndromeBelow, we describe it for you.

“Nothing is as discouraging as a happy slave.”

-Ricardo Flores Magón-

Mental chains

When we talk about slavery, everyone thinks that slavery is now obsolete and remains in the past. But…are we sure of that? A happy slave has many mental chains. This makes it much more difficult to rebel against it, because the chains are in one’s own mind, and therefore form a part of one’s being.

The methods of enslavement have changed; now they’re more subtle, such that we can be happy slaves without even knowing it. Nobody likes being a slave, but what if we’re not aware of it? We’ll reveal the mystery for you:


When you’re unable to fight back against humiliation, when you remain crestfallen in an argument without stating your opinion, you are a slave. What are you afraid of? You know that you want to raise your voice, but something stops you. Or maybe we should say that you stop yourself.

The chains that we may have aren’t put there by anyone; we put them there ourselves. Rules that one must follow to live in society, along with the need to be perfect, many times restrict the freedom to be ourselves. And unfortunately, we often don’t realize this.

Are you happy letting yourself be humiliated? Are you happy trying to be the same as everyone else? Does the search for happiness really bring you to it? Truthfully, no.

Are we anesthetized?

Happy slave syndrome can be compared to being under the effect of anesthesia. We are like bodies that think in basically the same way. We think we’re doing what we want, but the reality is totally different. We are happy slaves.

Think about your relationships for a moment. Depending on where you live, you’ll have a different concept of relationships, of infidelity, of monogamy. Maybe your relationships are different than the ones that were instilled in you when you were younger, but does this mean you are not a happy slave?

hanging dolls

All human beings search for happiness, or at least we think that’s our goal. But what does happiness mean to you? Having a family? Job security? Happiness is dictated by society. People who rebel against happy slave syndrome start to see the lack of reason behind the illusions and stereotypes that are imposed on us by the society in which we live.

“They laugh at me because I’m different; I laugh at them because they‘re all the same.”

-Kurt Cobain-

Uniform thought makes us feel like we’re not strange to the people around us. We think that if we go further, if we really break the chains, they’ll think we’re strange. And we’ll start to see them as a group of people who all think the same, while we are different.

Do you remember those shoes that you didn’t like at all, but now you’re wearing them? Media, fashion, and society obligate you to give in. You didn’t like them, but now you’re wearing them. Even if you don’t think your friends are putting pressure on you to wear shoes that you don’t like, society pressures you to be the same.

Think about your family. Is chauvinism still present?

In many families, it is, and do you know why? If we give in instead of rebelling against it, we feel obliged to accept, or even grateful for, chauvinistic treatment in our homes, and we will reproduce it, without realizing, in future relationships.

This is why even today there are still many things that should have remained in the past. People are so unaware of it. They don’t realize that they are reproducing something that they criticized and rejected.

Trying to be oneself is very difficult. It seems like we are all labeled by the same standard, and when you deviate from it, you look strange to other people. Frustration, pessimism, and depression  can take hold of you. You can’t change anyone else, but you can change yourself. Free yourself of the chains. Seek your own happiness, separate from what society dictates for you.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.