A Good Relationship Requires Work

A Good Relationship Requires Work
Sergio De Dios González

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Written by Okairy Zuñiga

Last update: 21 December, 2022

Romantic relationships and true love are surrounded by many myths. Some people believe that once you have found the love of your life, you don’t have to worry about a thing.

Later on, they don’t understand that what seemed like true love can no longer go on. Suddenly weariness arrives without you even noticing, and you find yourself almost running away from your partner.

The truth is that “suddenly” isn’t very accurate. The thing is that we forget that a perfect relationship doesn’t exist. No relationship that has lasted 20, 40 or 50 years has been free of setbacks, but it’s involved two people that are willing to build true love every day. If you want to be a part of one of these relationships don’t forget the following:

Strengthen your friendship to improve your relationship

How satisfied you are with your partner depends greatly on how you feel with the other person. True love blooms when there’s deep understanding between the two people. Otherwise, obsessions, jealousy and constant arguments will arise.

You have to make time for talking and for doing activities together. Spend more time doing what you enjoy, from playing a certain sport to learning a new skill. This will allow you to create memories and experience emotions that will underpin your relationship.

couple in the woods

You should also make time to discuss the things you like and dislike about your lives, your new interests, new friends. True love requires you to constantly update each other, since we’re all undergoing a process of perpetual change.

The importance of showing appreciation for your partner

I’m sure that when you were starting your romantic relationship, you did everything you could to show your partner that you felt true love for them. Maybe you went a couple extra miles one day just to see them? Well, one of the secrets to having a successful relationship is to continue to show your appreciation.

True love doesn’t ask that you give enormous efforts. I’m talking about small details that will tell that person that you love them. From a compliment when they least expect it, to taking the time to accompany them somewhere you don’t care for but that really makes your partner happy. Remind them, and yourself, of the things that make them your true love.

Focus on the present in order to improve your future together

True love won’t stick around just because you’ve already found it. Relationships go through tough times that can pull the partners apart if they aren’t prepared for them. That’s why it’s important to set the foundation for the relationship you want 40 years from now.

What do I mean? Prepare for the changes up ahead. For example, many couples can face the decision of living far apart for work-related reasons. In this case, it’s important to analyze how to act and the benefits of doing so.

couple embracing at the table

Though it may seem like a purely economical decision, the separation can chill and harm the relationship even though it contains true love. You should analyze how the separation will be, if you’re willing to live like that and what you need from the other person. During these separations, memories, emotions and experiences accumulate that the partners should be ready to face.

Pay attention to the good things in life

True love overcomes the bad times when you have the necessary conviction. As a couple you should be ready to live these moments, face them and leave them behind. Many of the couples that fail, don’t fail due to lack of love. What affects them is not knowing how to forget and move forward.

If they had an argument two weeks ago and resolved the issue, there’s no point for them to bring it up again during the next discussion. True love needs to forget in order to move forward. It’s not about forgetting so you can blind yourself to reality itself. If you’re in a toxic relationship, forgetting can be the least positive thing you can do. But forgetting the small insignificant things is key…

Remember what true love really is

Routine can make you forget that you’re with your partner because you feel true love. You need to remember that they’re there…

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.