Get Rid of the Thoughts That Hold You Back

· September 24, 2015

Have you ever wanted something, but put limits on yourself so that you can’t reach it? Phrases like “I want to accomplish this, but I don’t have the skill;” “I’m not that bright;” “It takes so much effort,” are thoughts that limit you and prevent you from reaching your goals.

Our thoughts can open doors for us or close them. This depends on us. Do you want your thoughts to allow you to grow or keep you where you are and prevent you from moving forward? If you identify with the below, it might be time to change your mindset so you can confront these thoughts.

“A man’s life is what his thoughts make of it.”

-Marcus Aurelius-

The enslaved mind

Limiting thoughts keep you always thinking about the future and never the present. You avoid taking that trip that dream trip because tomorrow you may need that money; you’re not sure whether to buy something or save to invest in something better. All of these thoughts limit you, put you in doubt and in a mental struggle that keeps you from making decisions for today.

22db3-internalstruggle


Live in the present! Who knows what will happen tomorrow? Do you really want to limit yourself? Tomorrow your life may change. You may regret not having done what you wanted, so do it now, because the days pass by and don’t come back.

The disorganized mind

When our mind is not organized, this manifests itself on the outside. Our house, our own room, our job, our life. Everything is chaos, a mess, and we don’t know where to start to clean it up. This limits our lives and stresses us out.

Many of us have a lot of work, as well as obligations at home, and it’s easy for everything to become chaotic to the point that we don’t know where to start to organize it. Here’s the key: if you want to organize your mind, first organize your surroundings. Put the papers in order, clean the house, organize your agenda, etc. This will help give you the confidence you need to to start working on the internal things.

Put an end to disorder!

The victimized mind

Many people play the victim, convincing themselves that the world is out to get them. Maybe this makes them feel more comfortable with life’s uncertainty, but it also undoubtedly limited them. How?

A person playing the victim will always think that the world is against them, that they have not achieved what they had hoped for because of others, that nobody has helped them. This does nothing but create self-inflicted barriers to what they can achieve.

playing-the-victim-and-blaming-everyone-else-for-all-of-our-problems-is-the-easiest-thing-to-do-but-it-has-serious-consequences-istock-420x265

If we feel let life’s challenges make us feel defeated, we’ll suffer from low self-esteem, powerlessness, rage and frustration. And that’s not the worst of it. We’ll end up doing nothing because we can’t be in control.

Let’s change our way of thinking. Nobody is against us; the world is not against us. Let’s stop blaming others for our failures and let’s learn to face them to make us stronger. Playing the victim doesn’t solve anything in our lives; quite the opposite, it limits us.

The unsure mind

Insecurity stops you from moving forward. It makes us believe that we don’t deserve anything, and that what little we get is fine because we don’t value ourselves. 

Why this insecurity? We don’t necessarily need to believe we are the best, but it is important to have a healthy sense of self worth.

Think about the opportunities that you lose by limiting yourself like this. For example, if you think you deserve a raise, your insecurity will stop you from talking to your boss. Not just to ask for it, but to talk about it, to suggest it, that is what you deserve! But your insecure mind tells you to settle for what you have.

The same thing happens in other spheres, like our relationships. Should we tolerate that person humiliating us because we don’t think we deserve something better? You are limiting your life and sabotaging your own happiness. Put an end to the thoughts that limit you and be happy. 

Do you struggle with other limiting beliefs? Do you identify with any of the above? If so, fix it! Don’t let your life be ruled by thoughts that limit you.