Fall in love with yourself

Fall in love with yourself

Last update: 30 April, 2018

Fall in love with yourself. Treat yourself with love, value your achievements and recognize that you know how to do things well. Take care of yourself, and above all, do not forget yourself. You are also someone important. Do not criticize yourself, or at least do not punish yourself. Love yourself

Good self-esteem increases the feeling of well-being and positive emotions. In addition, it allows you to achieve greater efficiency in tasks and establish a more balanced relationship with others, making you gain autonomy and independence. For that reason and for much much more, it is necessary that you remember this message – fall in love with yourself.

We have a lack of self-esteem

From childhood we teach personal care for our physical appearance: brush our teeth, bathe, eat, dress … But what about psychological care and mental hygiene? Do we pay enough attention to that?

The harsh reality is that most of us have a lack of love towards ourselves. A lack of self-love that translates into feelings of distrust and low self-esteem, which prevent us from enjoying the opportunities that life gives us, in addition to our relationships. If we do not love and care for each other, if we do not respect each other … how are others going to do it?



Why do we boycott ourselves?

Self-punishment is one of the worst ways we treat ourselves. Even though we use it daily and sometimes, without realizing it. Destructive criticism increases our suffering, our dependence and our vulnerability.

Sometimes, we build walls and barriers that prevent us from being well, because we do not know how to face or accept suffering. We hide from everything, even from ourselves … Uncertainty scares us and the unexpected terrifies us.

By self-boycotting, we are looking for someone to save us from ourselves. A vicious circle in which the sadder we are because of our supposed uselessness, the more we need the attention and praise of others.


Low selfesteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on”.

-Maxwell Maltz-

We are wrong. Happiness is not found outside, but inside us. We often make a mistake in thinking that others will make us happy or that by buying things we will be satisfied. What will really make us happy is to be good to ourselves.


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The importance of self-care

Self-care is valuing, appreciating and accepting yourself. An important aspect that points out the way we relate to others and ourselves.

As Oscar Wilde said, “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” If we do not take care of ourselves, or prioritize ourselves, nobody else will do it the way we need to. In fact, there are many individuals who depend on other people to be happy and, in reality, for that reason they are empty.

Self-care is a fundamental trait that every human being should cultivate. It solidifies our autonomy and offers us tools to cope healthily with life and adapt to it.

Without proper mental hygiene, it will be difficult for us to reach our goals, because it diminishes our self-realization. In addition, lacking mental hygiene is what leads us to self-punishment and destructive criticism. We have to value ourselves, enjoy our company and fight for ourselves.


woman with heart in front of face

Loving ourselves is the first step to fulfilling all our expectations, and not vice versa, meeting expectations in order to love ourselves. This self-demanding thought leads us to destructive criticism that punishes us. We only believe that we deserve our affection when we achieve goals. And we do not realize that without our own affection we will not achieve our goals.

Therefore, fall in love with yourself and everything else will fall into place. You have to love yourself first to do anything in this world.

Do not forget, fall in love with yourself, be your main companion. Your support and your shoulder. Loving yourself is the unmistakable path to happiness.


All cited sources were thoroughly reviewed by our team to ensure their quality, reliability, currency, and validity. The bibliography of this article was considered reliable and of academic or scientific accuracy.

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