In an Emotional Battle, You Chose the Emotion that Wins

· July 8, 2017

An emotional battle is a struggle that goes on within us. In any situation or circumstance in our life, we can reinforce our feelings and focus on feeling anger, envy, jealousy, sadness, arrogance or instead we could feel happiness, peace, love, hope, humility and generosity.

Emotions are manifested in a very personal way manifesting themselves in our facial expressions, our posture and in specific mental states. Choosing on which emotions to focus will also affect how we see life. Depending on how we view life, we will think and behave either in a proactive manner or conflictive.

Experimenting with some emotions more frequently than others can influence our state of mind and our motivation, as well as our character and conduct. Choosing to view the things that happen to us in a positive way will result in physiological reactions associated with the production of certain hormones such as noradrenaline and serotonin.

Is the road you chose always the right one? The important thing is to make a choice, not the success of it. 

The Brain and Emotions


Experts in emotions, such as Klaus Scherer of the University of Geneva and, the now deceased, Richard Lazarus, proposed that an important factor in modulating emotions are the thoughts over what we experience. The abilities and mental processes such as attention, memory, reasoning and decision making allow us to consciously interpret events and decide how best to react to those events.

Depending on our cognitive ability and our capacity to modulate our emotions we can correctly choose which emotions are proper for each situation and then we can experiment with them. Emotional modulation consists of a series of cognitive strategies that help us control our emotions. 

The most interesting thing in this field is that the experts on emotions and the brain have found evidence that we can teach our brain to modulate emotions. The key may very well be in the ability of the brain to change, in neuroplasticity. In fact, it has been proven that the malleability of our brain is far superior than what was originally thought.

Our environment as well as our conduct can trigger a reorganization of certain brain functions. The majority of people can learn how to transform their emotions by means of certain techniques and therapeutic practices. This means that we are capable of making changes at a depth much greater than what had been predicted just a few years ago.

You chose your path, you chose your destiny, and if you choose well, you will be happy. 

You Chose How to Feel

We are made of light and darkness. In each one of us exists a struggle that we win or lose, depending on what we choose to feed. We all have a life full of light and shadows, of ups and downs, of brightness and darkness. But, all of that is what makes us. What we accept and what we deny, what we speak out loud and what we keep quiet.

Only after accepting this can we start of the path of progress, learning how to love ourselves and changing the dark times to light. Only with light can we shine in the darkness, light up others and transform the emotions of fear, anger, envy and arrogance into the emotions of love, hope, humility, happiness and generosity that will stay with us during the process of transformation.

Managing our emotions in most of the situations life throws at us and developing our positive emotions, is fundamental in establishing modulation strategies and emotional self-awareness that will allow us to develop a positive view of life and of ourselves.

Don’t be afraid of the shadows, because only you can decide what is a shadow, you can chose to see the light.