Don't Let People Drag You through Their Storm
Everyone gives what they have inside to others, whether it’s agreeable or not. However, it’s not other people that hurt us. Rather, it’s ourselves who give validity to their opinions and actions.
Don’t let others turn you into a monster. Don’t let people drag you along and extinguish your light, don’t let them provoke you, and definitely never let them transfer their demons onto you.
-If someone approaches you with a gift and you don’t accept it, who does the gift belong to?
-To whoever tried to give it- responded one of the students.
-The same goes for envy, anger, and insults- said the teacher. -When they aren’t accepted, they continue belonging to the person who brought them along.
No one can hurt you without your own consent. They say that the biggest form of contempt is to not appreciate; that indifference is the worst punishment and the best weapon to fight against attacks with.
“Suffering an offense is nothing, unless we endeavor to remember it.”
-Confucious-
Your worst enemy is not the person who hurt you; it’s you who replicates the wrongdoing thousands of times. We can simply let their words leave with the wind, or we can let them stay with us. In other words, in order for their words to hurt you, you have to give them meaning. This simple act is a reflection of your inner state, of your being. Think of having emotional freedom in one hand and slavery in the other, and it’s obvious which one will satisfy you more.
“Anyone can become angry…that’s easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right moment, for the right reason, and in the right way…that isn’t easy.
Aristotle
Losing control and acting on our anger won’t put us in a good place; all it’ll do is throw more wood onto the fire and burn us. Honesty with oneself, self-control, and self confidence are essential tools that you learn through trial and error.
If we let negativity in, we’ll never feel whole or free. Ultimately, the only difference between a good day and a bad day is our attitude towards the situation. Sometimes, we load ourselves with pain, envy, and anger. They are evils that can easily turn into parasites, living in our house at our expense.
Don’t pay attention to people who talk without knowing what they’re saying or who try to harm you with their words and their actions. To ignore is to respond intelligently. Remember, Yyou deserve love, not harm. You deserve respect; everyone does. You can let yourself lose everything in life, except your dignity. That is really what causes you harm, so never let that happen. If you feel that you’ve already lost it, remember that it’s never too late to get it back. And never forget…whoever doesn’t value you, doesn’t deserve you!
