Are You Happy with Your Life?

June 28, 2019
Are you happy? Discovering what makes you smile inside isn't always simple. In fact, the first obstacle you may have is not asking yourself some simple questions, the kind that may help you verify how satisfied you are with your life.

You may already know that there’s no such thing as complete happiness. Instead, happiness is a path you consciously take. (The path we’re about to discuss here today). Being happy with your life means you enjoy yourself most of the time.

However, happiness has a lot more to do with dynamic than static things. Because we thrive in movement.

Get up every morning with plans, but then change them and improvise if you wish. Then, go to bed with the satisfaction of another great day, as opposed to the routine with which you end them.

That kind of happiness that’s cooking inside yourself is one of calm euphoria. Of knowing deep inside that everything in your life is moving along. The pace may be fast or slow, but you’re going places.

Most people aren’t always aware of their internal state. Knowing if you’re happy with the life you lead means asking yourself many questions. Also, you’ll have to answer them honestly. It’s kind of like checking your car.

You must test your emotional state from time to time in order to reinforce yourself and also to regulate the sails of the boat that’s your life, especially if it’s a little adrift in some way.

How Many Times do You Catch Yourself Complaining about Your life?

A happy woman looking down.

This is one of the most important questions you can ask yourself frequently. It’s not just about avoiding your complaints. Rather, it’s about finding out if and why you continue to repeat the same complaints. If you do repeat them, then you may have fallen into a loop.

Note that complaints are rooted in frustration, discomfort, and perceived damage. People complain as a way to release tension. However, you must know that, far from relieving tension, complaining forces you to focus on the negative side of things.

A complaint loop has two outputs: either you accept a situation or you do something to get out of it. Unfortunately, there are times when getting out isn’t an option. Thus, if the only option you have is to accept your situation, then analyze it. Learn something from it and concentrate on something else as soon as possible.

Are You Surrounded by the Right People?

This is a difficult question because we can’t always choose the people you have around. Obviously, you won’t always find your close match in your place of employment or within your own family.

This is exactly why learning to create emotional filters to use with toxic people is an important step. Learning to see the impact others have in your emotional state is a very healthy exercise. It helps you relate to them without being adversely affected. Mainly, accept that some people are just not right for you.

Attracting the right people to your life or taking care of those who are already there is equally important. The people who make you feel good are those with whom you can be yourself without masks. They’re the people who support you in everything you do or decide, the ones you love spending time with.

What about Your Current Life Are You Truly Happy With?

A happy couple embraced.

Sometimes, people get carried away by the memory of the many happy moments in their past or become permanent residents of the magical world of the future.

However, there are many things the present has to offer. Thus, it’s always the right time to enjoy the simple pleasures to their fullest. They’re what the pleasant memories of the future are about.

For example, immerse yourself in the world of a good book or spend an entire afternoon cooking. Furthermore, go for a long walk and get lost in every detail. Or watch that movie you’ve been wanting to watch for a while.

The meaning of a pleasant moment is different for everyone. This is why it’s important to recognize the moments that make you happy. Collecting such moments will help you identify how happy you are with the life you currently lead.

Do everything that may make you feel good. Avoid getting caught up in the many problems or obstacles you may have in your life. This is a good route to follow.

Your inner smile has little to do with optimism. In fact, people who smile for no particular reason do so because they have a lot of it inside. It’s the kind of joy that derives from having inner peace. They know they’re not perfect and that they do the best they can. Also, they’re not afraid of loneliness, and they seldom compare themselves to others. Above all, inner happiness is all about being true to yourself.

  • Alice Boyes (2019) What Does “Enjoying Your Life” Mean to You?. Psychology Today
  • Emilio Moyano Díaz (2016) Escala de Felicidad para Adultos (EFPA)