7 Questions That Can Change Your Life
Sometimes we cannot find the answers because we don’t know how to ask the questions. We go on the adventure of coming up with big questions on general and profound topics, but in the end, we do not get anywhere. Asking, for example, “What meaning does my life have?” can be a good way to get even more lost.
The big questions lead to big answers, but there is a difference between “big questions” and “imprecise questions.” The latter become more than difficult to respond to because they involve too many variables at the same time and they lack limits that fence them in.
“Sometimes we can spend years without living at all, and suddenly our whole life is concentrated in a single moment.”
–Oscar Wilde–
That is why managing to correctly formulate the question is already one way to move towards the answer. Below, we are going to show you 7 questions designed for you to evaluate the way that you live and define if you are on the right path or if it is time to stop and start going in the other direction. This is not some kind of test, so take your time to answer them.
1. What would you change in your life if they told you that you were going to die in 10 years? A huge question!
Near-death experiences change the lives of many people. This is not without reason. In general, we live as if we were eternal. We completely avoid the idea of death, despite the fact that it is really the only certainty that we have in our future.
By remembering that everything will come to an end, all of the things that are really important for us show up more clearly. That is why if you dare to respond to this question honestly, you will be able to draw up a new hierarchy of priorities that will make you happier.
2. What advice would you give to a newborn child?
Think long and hard about this question before answering. In that response, you will be condensing much of what you have learned since your heart started to beat. It is going to be like a conclusion of your experiences and of what you have achieved with them.
The interesting part is that after thinking up your “wisdom capsule,” what you have to do is be coherent with that advice that you would give to the imaginary newborn. Are you already practicing it or should you start now?
3. If it didn’t depend on the calendar, what age would you say you are at this very moment?
Age is a very relative matter, although it is always a matter of crossing off a box each time we say how old we are. In the strictest sense, from the time we are born, there is a child, an adolescent, an adult, and an elderly person within us.
However, most of the time, it is only one of those ages that takes precedence at a given point in our existence. That is why the correct question is: how old are you really? How does it make you feel to be that age?
4. What was the biggest mistake of your life and how did you resolve it?
The position that we assume when faced with a mistake is one of the most revealing elements of who we are and how we go through our existence. Both mistakes and the ways we resolve them provide important keys to understanding ourselves better.
Concerning the mistake, by figuring out what the biggest one in your life was, surely you can find paths leading to your main weaknesses. On the solution side, you will be able to visualize the dynamic that you tend to use to face hard times.
5. What would you like to do, but you don’t do it because you feel like you will be judged?
The looks and opinions of others can be strong conditioning against action. Sometimes this is healthy and simply indicates that we have achieved a level of healthy adaptation with the environment that we live in.
On other occasions, what lies behind that conditioning is a great fear of being judged. We do not act based on the respect that we have for something that we sincerely believe in, but rather out of fear of what others will say. The answer to this question will bring you closer to your repressed feelings.
6. What are the 5 things that you have done this year that you are going to remember for the rest of your life?
With this question, you can judge whether or not you are really living in accordance with your relevant objectives or if you have gotten lost in a trivial routine. Relevant goals are not the ones that involve mega-projects, but the ones that involve essential aspects of your life.
If you can make this list with relativity ease, surely you are living in an intense way. If, on the other hand, you do not easily find those 5 facts, maybe it is time to look back over the way you are acting. It is possible for you to have forgotten a bit about yourself.
7. What job would give you complete happiness? If it’s not the one you have, why not?
Everyone should have the goal of working in what they love. Work is one of the pillars not only of our survival, but also of our mental health. This is why we draw a great deal of our well being from our working life.
Maybe it is time to think about whether or not you are really doing what you love. Are you working in a field that you really like? Are you along the way to being able to work in the job you want? Or have you simply settled for a job that you do not want and gave up doing something to change this?
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