5 Signs the Relationship Isn’t Meant to Be

· November 25, 2015

Falling in love is an experience that we all desire and deserve to experience sometime in our lives. It raises us to greater heights and it is one of the most incredible and fascinating feelings in the world.

Being in love gives us a sensation that fills us with life and makes us happy; however, it can also involve suffering.

When we fall in love, we don’t expect to suffer. The love that we feel in those moments leaves no room for such a contradictory emotion. But the truth is that sometimes it is part of the process that allows us to learn, grow inside, and value true love.

We bring you today a list of 5 situations where falling in love could only end with a heartbreak:

1. The relationship was born of lust.

Thanks to movies and books where this type of love was the star, we are surrounded by the belief that we could fall in love after a night of passion, or that a fairy tale must have this type of love as one of its essential ingredients.

This has nothing to do with our day-to-day and real life. For this, it is necessary for us to know the difference between a physical connection and an emotional one. Being conscious of this will keep us from breaking our own heart unnecessarily.


2. There is a deadline.

If you have met the person of your dreams and they tell you that they are planning a stay in another country, then your time with him or her is limited.

Deadlines are made for one reason and one reason only: to determine the end of a chapter. So ask yourself a question: why would you fall in love when the relationship already has its days numbered? If you commit your heart to that situation, you will probably end up alone and disappointed, stopping you from living life.

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3. The majority of your loved ones disapprove.

People will always have lots of “silly” reasons why we shouldn’t be with the person that we love. But if your whole family and all your friends start rejecting the person that you’ve fallen in love with, it might be with good reason. If they all agree, it’s possibly because something is going wrong. Your close friends and family love you and will always take care of you; they will always want the best thing for you.

If this situation comes up often in your life, the moment may have arrived when you should look at your lifestyle and actions, asking yourself if you are feeling good with them or if you need to change something.

4. There are too many miles between you.

When you spend too much time living in this kind of situation, the relationship can begin to involve excessive effort or a constant emotional struggle. Maybe you should ask yourself if it’s worth the trouble for everything you’re experiencing, both the good and the bad. Long distance relationships can increase your emotional stress.

5. The other person is holding back.

When we fall in love with someone, we usually know whether they’re likely to return our love or not. If it doesn’t seem like the person you’ve fallen for feels the same, why do you believe that you can change it?

If a person is who he/she is, don’t fight against this; that person will want to keep doing what they want to do and in an effort to make them fall in love with you, you will probably burn yourself out unnecessarily over something that from the very start was a NO.

So, when faced with this situation, we can leave our heart “on the bench” and be realistic to avoid possible suffering. 

Because if you really want to love and be loved, your heart is the best guide. Place your bid on yourself, on your feelings, on your intuition. Just relax and enjoy the precious journey that life and love bring.

You’re going to love anyway, so if you’re going to do it, do it with all that you are, because each of us is unique and we have something very precious to bring to others.