The Reasons Why Silent Pain Isn't Healthy
Silent pain is a consequence of environments that are intolerant of people’s distress. Many repress it because they consider it a weakness. These people are sad, yet nobody notices. Unfortunately for them, they deny their own human fragility by doing so.
People intolerant of pain don’t allow any expression of sadness and remain silent. They don’t cry, keep themselves together, and just go on about their life as if there was nothing wrong. Furthermore, they don’t give encouragement and demand an immediate change of attitude. Rather, they label any signs of pain as weak and incompetent.
Now, silent pain means putting a veil over a facet of yourself and, ultimately, of your life. It implies renouncing the expression of a really important part of yourself. It’s nothing more than an action to please others that distorts your relationships and distances you from who you truly are.
Silent pain isn’t healthy
Repression leads to perversion. No matter how hard you try, everything you repress will come out somehow. Often as a physical symptom that’s seemingly chronic and inexplicable.
Human beings need to express how they feel in order to care for their psychological health. Silent pain may manifest as migraines, muscle pains, eating disorders, etc.
You allow a feeling of false guilt to invade you
People can convince themselves that sadness is bad in environments that don’t tolerate pain. Thus, they must eradicate them in all circumstances. In fact, many feel guilty for experiencing distress. This is a huge mistake. A healthy human being should be able to feel happiness and peace, but also fear, anger, and pain.
Actually, not feeling pain is an antisocial trait. Only those with strong psychological maladjustments don’t experience it. Affliction also leads to positive results. In fact, one of them is knowing and accepting that you’re vulnerable. You also learn valuable lessons of humility and grow progressively.
The perpetuation of grief
Your natural processes alter when you keep your pain silent, especially when you’re in mourning. A loss gives rise to a series of stages you must complete in order to overcome the situation. The pain will remain inhibited but entrenched at the same time, unless you let it take its course.
An incomplete mourning process usually turns into bitterness. You perceive reality in a negative way and can’t enjoy anything. You end up designing your future in a dark gray, almost black. Enthusiasm and optimism fail to break through. Furthermore, the discomfort persists and you may no longer be able to identify it.
A reduction or nullification of the value of empathy
The foundation of solidarity among people is precisely the fragility that inhabits us all. No matter how strong someone might be, they’re still human. Thus, they’re subject to experiences that affect them and motivate them to require other people’s support.
Silent pain basically validates the idea that people must be self-sufficient. Thus, values such as fraternity or empathy lose all meaning. The thought behind it is “Why help? Everyone should be invulnerable and self-sufficient”.
Silent pain only contributes to a more selfish society
Consequently, a community or society in which exercising silent pain is considered a virtue is a selfish one. It’s also indolent. Above all, it’s a community in which everyone is supposed to behave like an unfeeling warrior. Perhaps for the purpose of promoting the idea that fragility exists. This is because it’ll supposedly help them better cope with their anxiety. It’s a false beginning, however.
Silent pain isn’t good for an individual nor society. The only way to overcome it is to express it and let it out. This is the way for it to disappear for good and turn into a learning experience that leads to wisdom.