How to Improve Your Sexual Relationship

How to Improve Your Sexual Relationship

Last update: 20 September, 2018

Keeping the fire alive in a relationship is a challenge that takes effort. But there are many different strategies and exercises that can really help increase desire and improve sex. Here we’ve selected the most effective and practical ways to improve your sexual relationship.

Tip #1 for a better sexual relationship: expand your idea of sexuality

Sexuality is not just sex and desire but also seduction, touch, and intimacy. Fantasizing, thinking about being alone with them, listening to them, embracing them… To improve your sexual relationship, start with those aspects that seem — at first glance — the least sexual. 

We’re talking about friendship, feeling like you’re a team. If these aspects aren’t going well, then sexual desire will noticeably go down. In fact, the first step in couples therapy usually involves strengthening the foundations of the relationship. Then sex can improve. Stability makes intimacy and desire possible.

Tip #2 for a better sexual relationship: Work on yourself and your individuality

One of the most effective ways to improve your sexual relationship is actually found in individuality. Nothing is more sexy than seeing your partner having their own interests, motivations and desires.

Put another way, sexuality goes hand in hand with curiosity. So if your partner doesn’t make you curious, if they’re 100% predictable, then your sexuality will go into “hibernation”.

You’re attractive when you work on yourself and care about yourself. Make a list of things you’ve been meaning to do, like going to the gym or learning a language. Or maybe going on that trip you’ve always wanted to go on but never found time for. Make your partner curious about you, and you’ll be lighting the fire again.

Tip #3 for a better sexual relationship: get to know them better

If you want to improve your sexual relationship, you need to connect with him or her. And what does that mean? It means you have to know who they are, what they like, what they dream of. What fantasies they have, what little things make them happy.

This point is all about improving intimacy as a way to improve sexuality. Spend time together, just the two of you, no distractions. Give them 200% of your attention. Listen to them and take an interest in what they do every day.

“There are kisses which cause a delirium of crazy, burning, loving passion. You know them well because they are kisses of mine, invented by me, for your mouth”

-Gabriela Mistral-

How to improve your sexual relationship

Tip #4 for a better sexual relationship: try to sprinkle sexuality throughout your day

If there is desire, love, affection, and friendship, but no passion, then there’s pretty much no sexuality. It makes the relationship more like one between friends or family, not a couple. But everyday  stress, responsibilities and children can leave sex at the end of your to-do list.

So, little by little, sex gets neglected and your brain forgets it even exists. One good tip for adding passion is to remind your brain of it from time to time. This means fantasizing, thinking about what you’d like to try, sending a provocative text…

Finally, our best tip is to stop procrastinating. Don’t wait for the perfect time. It doesn’t exist and the longer you wait, the more your sexuality will fade. So, start as soon as you can and dare to try something new!

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.