Distance Doesn't Mean You Have to Forget

Distance Doesn't Mean You Have to Forget

Last update: 09 July, 2016

I’m leaving because I need to be somewhere else. I’m leaving, but I’m bringing you with me in my heart. You know that you’re always with me. You’re a part of me, I love you, and I will never forget you. You know that I’ll always love you and listen to you whenever you need me. We can shorten the distance with our words. Distance leaves behind an empty space, but there’s still something there. This is just a life lesson that we both need to learn.

I won’t forget that time we spent the whole afternoon laughing at your house. I won’t forget our journeys to the other side of the world. I won’t forget that I love you like I’ve never loved anyone before, and under no circumstances will I ever forget your smile.

“Only we know how to be distantly together.”

-Julio Cortázar-

The separations that we live through

Life plans many surprises for us, which sometimes occurs in the form of separations that seem like goodbyes when they happen, but are actually just a test and a new beginning at the same time. If your partner has to work far away, maybe this is the time to strengthen the relationship, to make yourselves feel closer by talking at ungodly hours, by surprising each other, by kissing through the phone.

A friend can move far away, but the separation doesn’t have to be the end of the friendship. Our friends are always on our minds, and we’re always on theirs, in some way. At the right moment, we’ll think of a memory that makes us smile.

couple in the snow

Distance can end a friendship or romantic relationship if you don’t fight for it. If you don’t give it your all, the distance can make you start to forget them. But today there are many ways to reduce the distance. The internet, the telephone, traveling on a plane, and a combination of all of these options can help you keep the friendship or relationship going, so that the distance doesn’t turn into oblivion.

“Don’t be afraid of destiny, don’t be afraid of distance. My heart is in your soul because I’m always very close to your love.”

-Celeste Carballo-

How to make a long-distance relationship work

Maintaining a long-distance relationship is a very difficult challenge, we can’t lie to ourselves about that, but it is possible if both people put in their best effort to make the bond last. If the relationship is real and sincere, it will be strengthened, and if it’s not, it will be destroyed beyond repair. Below we give you five hints to keep the relationship alive:

Be honest

Communication, honesty, and sincerity are important in every relationship, but if you’re miles away from each other, you’ll have to make an additional effort for you to continue the relationship and make each other happy.

Before one of you leaves, you must examine your thoughts and see what you want from the relationship. This examination must be honest; you can’t deceive yourselves. You also have to tell the other person what you want and how you’d like this long-distance relationship to function.

The need to be honest and sincere is constant throughout any relationship, especially when there’s distance between you. You might start to lose hope sometimes, but you have to stay calm and breathe.

If they don’t return your call right away, it doesn’t mean anything. Maybe they’re busy and they can’t get back to you right now, or maybe there’s a time difference and they’re sleeping right now. It could be a thousand different things, so don’t let your imagination run wild. Give things the time they need.

couple on a balcony

Lean on the people you love

Life doesn’t end because someone you love has gone away for a while. Life goes on, so you should enjoy it. Hang out with your friends, go out, have fun, tell them what’s worrying you, and forget about the distance for a while. Share your thoughts with your family so they can be there for you and help you feel better.

Maintain communication with them

Communication is essential. You can establish a set day of the week to talk to each other, write e-mails, chat on WhatsApp, send photos and songs to each other, etc. You can strengthen your relationship despite the distance.

Plan visits

The hope of seeing the other person again should push you to plan when and where you can see each other next. Plan visits, plan what you’re going to do, plan where you’re going to go, and keep the hope alive. And when you see each other, take full advantage of your time together, show your affection and love, and prevent the distance from making you forget each other.

“No distance can keep anxious lovers long asunder.”

-George Washington-



This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.