The Difference Between Monotony and Heartbreak

While monotony can be overcome, heartbreak is a lost battle. Read more here!
The Difference Between Monotony and Heartbreak

Last update: 23 February, 2019

The difference between monotony and heartbreak lies in one word: attention. If you don’t pay attention to your relationship and let monotony take over, you’ll find yourself heartbroken and wondering what went wrong. Read on to find out what you need to do in order to keep your relationship exciting.

A couple having an argument on a couch.

Love crises

Living with your loved one can have its ups and downs, but not all crises are bad. Love crises can help the relationship grow and mature.

Solving these crises can make your bond grow stronger and it can help you get to know and understand your partner more. However, some of these crises can end badly and create an ocean between the two of you that neither might want to cross. That’s why a lot of relationships end.

The good news is that this can be fixed by recognizing each other’s needs on time.

Older couple having a drink.

Monotony ends relationships

You, as a couple, need to find ways to keep your relationship alive. Fulfilling and exciting experiences can fill you with enthusiasm and improve the outlook of your future as a couple.

A relationship needs imagination, playfulness, goals, mutual care, and shared plans. That’s how you escape monotony. This doesn’t have to be a big issue, you just need to be resourceful to avoid monotony and try to liven up those grey days.

Monotony can make life boring, exhausting, overbearing, and annoying. This can trap you in an endless pessimistic loop if you don’t work hastily enough to avoid a breakup.

Couple jumping together.

Monotony or heartbreak?

Monotony can infect a relationship like a virus. You’re still attracted to your partner, but life with them bores you. As such, your life isn’t fulfilling enough.

There comes a time when you start to feel annoyed, bored, and empty. When you see your partner, you still have those “butterflies” in your stomach but you don’t feel motivated enough to go on. However, if you start doing something different with your partner, things will start to make sense again and you’ll start feeling better.

When you’re heartbroken, you don’t feel annoyed nor empty. You feel disappointed and you can’t recover from that. It’s like there are no sparks left. You may even start feeling pity for the other person.

Love is the most rewarding feeling. It makes you feel alive and makes you want to share your life with your partner. Heartbreak is the exact opposite. It pushes you away from the person you once loved. When there’s heartbreak, there’s no commitment and you no longer want to share your life with your significant other.

Heartbreak leads to breakups. There’s no coming back from that, no matter how hard you try. Heartbreak can be the end of an era, and you must accept that. However, when there’s monotony, there’s still a chance at love.

While monotony can be overcome, heartbreak is a lost battle.


This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.