Today Is The Day To Turn Resentment Into Forgiveness

Today Is The Day To Turn Resentment Into Forgiveness
Sergio De Dios González

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Last update: 21 December, 2022

At some moment in our lives, we have gotten to where we could no longer tolerate a person or thing. For example, not being able to stand the behavior of one of our friends or family members anymore.

But what happens when we do not tolerate ourselves? When we think: How could we have done that? How could I accept that job? How could I eat so much?

Without being aware of it we become our own enemy. Something that is the result of anger or rage that we feel towards another person. Resentment that makes us unable to deal with even ourselves.

“If a renunciation gives rise to resentment, the sacrifice is no longer worth it.”

-Giovanni Guareschi-

When we are resentful, we are not happy . We are repressing a rage that is fighting to get out, to be expressed, and thus to be freed forever.

But what we do not realize is that we are the ones who are hurt the most in this situation. We are the ones who will live with bitterness, unhappy and constantly angry with everyone and everything.

Resentment makes us hostile

Maybe you do not perceive it visually, but surely at some point you have seen people who constantly have an angry expression, reflecting their anger on their face. And you wonder, but why are they so angry? Isn’t it better to be happy?

That same thing happens to us when we are bitter towards someone. We become hostile without meaning to and this shows itself on our face.

Angry Face

In addition, hostility will bring nothing but negative things to our lives. Are you wondering why nothing is going right for you lately? Focus on how you are acting. Therein lies the answer.

We do not realize that hostility always works against us. It not only affects us, but everyone and everything around us as well. The people we love the most, all of our relationships will be affected by this new way that we have of dealing with our daily life.

Being hostile will not bring us anything good. In fact, it is so serious that spending much time in this hostile situation can make us seriously ill.

“No human being has ever been born with aggressive or hostile impulses, and no one becomes aggressive or hostile without learning to do so.”

-Ashley Montago-

What can we do to stop being hostile? For starters, we have to surround ourselves with positive people who splurge on sympathy and happiness .

Sometimes we find ourselves drowning in hostility because we surround ourselves with hostile, negative, malicious people who are constantly undermining us mentally without us noticing it.

Learn to forgive

When we find ourselves filled with so much hostility and resentment, what we have to learn right away is to forgive. But not only to forgive others, but also ourselves.

Child Playing with Sand

As we have already said, sometimes you find yourself feeling resentful, you can no longer stand yourself because your own behaviors, your own actions bother you so much.

Forgiving yourself and forgiving others takes time. This is why it is necessary to get rid of some things ahead of time that may be holding back that forgiveness we are seeking.

  • The wounds that others can cause us.
  • The hard feelings that do nothing more than impede our happiness and forgiveness.
  • The selfishness that causes you sadness and stops you from enjoying the power of generosity.
  • Thinking and living in the past, something that stops us from advancing and moving forward.
  • Being bothered by rumors or worrying about what other people might say about you.

All of these things, and many more, make us live our lives filled with bitterness so that we cannot forgive others or ourselves.

We all make mistakes and we have to feel free from everything that others can do to us. What did they do to hurt you? Realize that it is you who is allowing the pain, for it is not a physical pain. Don’t you have the power to decide who can hurt you and who cannot?

“There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.”

-Josh Billings-

Keep in mind that the less you allow others to hurt you, the more you will ignore the rumors, the more you will live in the present without thinking about the future, and you will probably see more potential in the things around you.

However, you will be free and nothing will hurt you. Live your life, forgive others, and forgive yourself. Be free and be happy.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.