It's Time to Start Recognizing the Beauty of Life

Don't be afraid of your emotions. It's time to accept that life is both unexpected and beautiful.
It's Time to Start Recognizing the Beauty of Life
Gema Sánchez Cuevas

Written and verified by the psychologist Gema Sánchez Cuevas.

Last update: 10 July, 2022

In life, you get accustomed to falling, making mistakes, being on the receiving end of blows and disappointments, and making the wrong decisions. Furthermore, you get used to having to deal with frustration, anger, sadness, and despair.

However, negative emotions and pain are necessary. After all, you wouldn’t be strong if you didn’t have to defend yourself in order to survive and keep going. You wouldn’t sharpen your claws if you didn’t need to cling to the parallel realities where your dreams reside.

In short, you’re who you are and where you are because of everything you’ve had to do due to the various setbacks in your life.

What’s made you the way you are is the way in which you’ve overcome each challenge and setback in your life. The way in which you’ve acted in the face of a life that, at times, doesn’t satisfy you.

Your emotions

You tend to establish a really strong bond with your emotions. They’re familiar to you and help you to carry on. They drive you on and help you win the battle.

You identify with your pain and you know it well. Indeed, you’re continually forced to reaffirm your relationship with it in order to know how to handle and detract from it.

Although it’s difficult to assimilate all the negative that surrounds you, you have the ability to accept it and focus on the solution. Undoubtedly, it ‘s difficult to overcome some obstacles but you’re used to their existence.

However, what about positive emotions?


Being in control

Life makes you believe you’re a puppet and you tend to think that it controls you.

You go for your goals either with lead feet or on tiptoes, for fear of not achieving them. But nothing is ever entirely under your control.

You think you can, but… There’s always the damn but.

In fact, when something beautiful comes into your life, you feel rather disorientated and even depersonalized. It’s as if it weren’t really happening to you. You observe your own life from the outside, without participating in your own happiness.

You fear that it’s not for real, or that you’ve created expectations that aren’t going to be met.

It’s a way of protecting yourself, it’s a defense mechanism for your self-esteem. You’re more comfortable at a basal level that isn’t too high than to be up in the clouds and risk plummeting.

This causes a generalized fear of experiencing positive emotions. You don’t want to fall in love because you know what it means when the butterflies in your tummy eventually fly away. It’s hard for you to let yourself go because you know the adrenaline rush is only temporary. You don’t open yourself up to the unknown because you run the risk of ultimately feeling empty again.

So, you fall into the trap of not taking risks.

You believe that good things only come after a great deal of effort and that nothing in life is free. You’ve become distrustful of happiness.


Recognize the beauty of life

It’s paradoxical that you’re more accustomed to falling than to maintaining your balance. You think it involves so much more effort to be happy. So, you go out into the street wearing a suit of armor of pessimism to safeguard yourself from anything unexpected.

Surprisingly, this has its own logic. Because w hen you’re happy, you can touch your life with your own hands, but this makes you feel too fragile.

Nevertheless, you caress the dreams that used to shine on your horizon, keep those unforgettable magical moments in your pocket, and cushion yourself in mental clouds that comfort your well-being.

You don’t want to go back to the glorious unknown. What unsettles you the most is the fear that it’d be the last time.

However, if there’s one thing that’s certain, it’s that the sun rises again every morning. There’s always light outside and it always shines through. That’s the beauty of life.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.