If They Make You Wait, Let Them Go

If They Make You Wait, Let Them Go

Last update: 05 January, 2017

Relationships are not meant to be postponed, and neither are feelings. So if somebody tries to mold you to their desires, don’t let them. It’s not healthy to beg for love, because as we all know, affection and appreciation are worth nothing if you have to ask or wait for them. If somebody makes you wait, you can choose to let them go.

Why? Because love is immediate; it’s not something that can be postponed. If you surrender to the idea that someone’s selfishness will eventually turn into gratitude and affection, you’re wasting your time.

When you love someone, you love them every day, not on and off depending on the day. However, people often gamble their emotional well-being away in a game of misfortune, forcing them to wait and wait in the spot where others left them.

Of course, sometimes one or both people in the relationship need to take time to manage their priorities and clarify their feelings, but that’s a separate matter.

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Choose to be a priority, choose to be happy

Making yourself a priority is just a matter of choosing to do so. When your inner world turns into a battleground between your own desires and other people’s expectations, you fall into a deep emotional pit.

You deserve to be cared for and listened to. You deserve to be the protagonist of your own movie, a movie that should always have a backdrop of self-love. This is based on considering yourself separate from other people’s feelings.

If you want to say NO, you have every right. And you also have every right to say ENOUGH. If you don’t want to negotiate the terms of the relationship because your desires are being compromised, you have that right, too.

Save yourself from yourself; don’t be deceived by false promises that make you wait. When your desires and rights are at risk, not everything is worth it. You have to set aside the false idea that all’s fair in love and war. Feeling good isn’t someone else’s decision, it’s your own.

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The best adventure is loving yourself

Choosing yourself is a decision that will guarantee you the most happiness. To help you do so, we have divided this process into different points that should always be kept in mind. Here are a few key points:

Surround yourself with people who add to your life, not subtract

The people who give you light, move you, and always take you into consideration are the ones who are worth your time and happiness. Doing away with the relationships that contribute to your suffering is a principal of emotional health that everybody should recognize.

Authentic people = authentic relationships

We tend to copy and paste our relationships onto others. We conform with monotonous relationships out of fear of uncertainty and emotional emptiness. But people don’t always fit with who we are or what we need, just like we don’t always fit in with them. Saying goodbye to fear’s influence will help you reclaim your right to search for meaningful relationships.

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Fortifying your strengths will help you care for your inner self

In order to be happy, you have to take a journey inwards and work on your basic characteristics. If you let someone or something control you and stunt your growth, you’re putting your strengths at risk, digging yourself into a deep hole, and weakening yourself.

If you balance it all out, the changes will come to you in a more natural and healthy way. That’s why it’s good to make use of self-love in every moment, not only when it’s convenient or when you feel trapped. Opening your eyes and asserting yourself are key to achieving this.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.