Learn From Your Past And Head Towards Your Future

Learn From Your Past And Head Towards Your Future
Sergio De Dios González

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Last update: 21 December, 2022

We all have a past full of happy and good things, but also of bad things and difficulties that affect us more than they should in our immediate present…experiences that are sometimes born again…

How many ghosts of the past continue to torment you now? Do you have something blocking you? You think these traumatic situations that have gone, but you apparently relive your present unconsciously.

“You always know when a stage comes to an end. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters; no matter what name we give it, what matters is leaving the moments of life that have already been finished in the past.”

-Paulo Coelho-

Not letting go of the past is something that is keeping you from moving ahead in life. It blocks you and in many occasions paralyzes you. Therefore, we must learn to look at our past as a learning opportunity.

Your past is a valuable experience

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Sometimes we look at our past as something hateful, something we would want to change, or something we would give anything to go back and relive. Would you really change your past?

If you think about changing your past you’re not on the right track. We cannot go back. Every minute that passes takes us away from the past that will never be recovered. Is it really necessary to be get bent out of shape about something we have no way of changing?

Sometimes we experience low self-esteem and are so sad that we cannot change it. But the first step is to accept that it is what it is! There is no way to go back. Accept it! Changing the past is impossible.

Once you’ve accepted it, you’ll find yourself on the right track to seeing that the past you have left behind is a valuable experience. We must learn to see the good in everything we have done, even though bad things have happened. What has that taught you?

Everything leaves a mark on us, absolutely everything. Every experience changes our life and we should embrace it as something that makes us advance, grow and improve as a person.

Are you going to continue to grieve over everything negative that has happened in your past? Not at all. Look closely. How much have you learned? Thanks to the past you are what you are today. Take advantage of your experiences to be better today and tomorrow. Enjoy them because with them you will learn. Grab your past, embrace it and learn from the negative experiences that have marked your life

Your future is a blank page!

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Once you’ve accepted that you cannot keep thinking about the past that has already passed, because you cannot change it, it’s time to think about your future. Your future is like a blank sheet of paper; you do not know what will happen, but what is certain is that what you do today is what will mark it.

Just as your past has marked your present your future will be marked by the here and now. Take the opportunity to learn from your past, be a better person now and redirect your future.

Do not allow yourself to continue carrying your frustrations and the things you should have left behind in the past, you don’t deserve it! Consider this: Who will you be? What are you going to do? Deciding how y ou want to be in your future is in your hands, however you want it to be.

Do you want to continue to carry heavy loads or live life freely? The future is yours and no one else’s. So start today by walking the path that will lead you to that future you so desire. It is very important for you to visualize that, despite the difficulties and negative things that can happen, to keep going further without deviating off your path.

“The best way to predict the future is to create it.”

-Peter Drucker-

Do you already know how you want your future to be? Visualize it and be free of anything that might stop you from everything you want to achieve or what you want to become. Remember that every moment you spend in your past is a time you lose when you could be making the most of your present or your future.

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Learn from your past, there’s always something good that comes out of something bad! Really… even the bad has taught you things, you just have to think about it, and look at it from a perspective of acceptance, assimilation and learning.


Images courtesy of Maggie Taylor, Christian Schloe

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.