A Growth Journey through Your Memories
Emotional immaturity is synonymous with a lack of emotional development. To become emotionally mature, you have to digest things, develop, and grow. In other words, emotional development requires a growth journey that’s characterized by the relationship between your emotions and the lessons learned from overcoming difficulties.
Another way to stimulate this emotional maturity is with your memories. Today, we’ll talk about this possibility. As Enrique Rojas pointed out in his article “The Immature Personality“, emotional instability, lack of self-awareness, and lack of responsibility characterize emotional immaturity.
You may be asking yourself how you can start controlling your emotions. Today, we’ll share a good way to start this growth journey.
Your growth journey
To start this growth journey, we recommend meditation. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing.
Next, visualize yourself walking down a path. It doesn’t matter if it’s filled with flowers, leaves, or sand. The important thing is to take in everything around you. Feel the sun warming your body from above.
At the end of the path, you’ll see a small cabin with a door. Open the door to discover some stairs. Being to walk down these stairs. Then, discover three floors.
The bad memories room
On the first floor, you see a door and an older person next to it. This person smiles at you and tells you that you have to choose one of the bad memories you’ll find inside.
Most of these bad memories have been with you for a long time. You’ve been carrying them, but haven’t stopped to analyze them nor take them in. Choose whatever bad memory you want. Then, walk back to the door.
The positive memories room
Continue down the stairs to the second floor. Open the door to find the positive memories room.
Walk through the door and choose the memory that most appeals to you or has the most meaning. Then, leave the room and continue down the stairs.
Your refuge: The last stop on your growth journey
In this last floor, you find a room. When you go inside, you find yourself in a fantastic place. This place is different for each person. It’s a place where you feel comfortable and at peace.
Sit in the middle of the room and take memories you’ve collected out of your backpack. Next, analyze them until you realize that both your good memories and your bad ones are a part of you.
After taking one last look around this beautiful place, go back to where you came from. On your way, leave each memory where you found it. Retrace your steps until you reach the beginning of the path. Finally, open your eyes.
Accept your past
This growth journey will help you accept the things that have happened to you to allow you to control your emotions in a better way.
If you already meditate, going on this journey will be a lot easier. Otherwise, you may have some difficulties relaxing and letting go.
If you need help, you should ask for it. Psychologists can help you with this exercise and many others that will help you grow and face everything that’s still hurting you today.