Laugh When You Can, Cry When You Need To

Laugh When You Can, Cry When You Need To
Raquel Aldana

Written and verified by the psychologist Raquel Aldana.

Last update: 14 December, 2021

-Let them go, Lucia- said her grandmother from somewhere.


-The tears! Sometimes it seems like there are so many that you feel you’re going to drown in them, but that’s not the case.

-Do you think one day they’ll stop coming out?

-Of course!- her grandmother replied with a sweet smile- Tears don’t day around too long, they do their job and then move on.

– And what job do they do?

-They’re water, Lucia! They clean and clear… just like the rain. Everything looks different after the rain… The rain knows why.

Unfortunately, our society does not allow us to cry. However, allowing ourselves to express our emotions is a source of liberation that we must seize. Therefore, we must get rid of that inner voice that keeps on repeating that adults and strong people don’t cry.

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The calm always comes after the storm

You have to remember that everything is fleeting. That is, although the darkness envelops you, you will gradually seeing the light.

To be able to understand our emotions and its various manifestations a little more, we have to stop and think if what’s really bothering us is on the outside or, on the contrary, is something within us.

We know that hiding our sorrow is part of a series of defense mechanisms that we hide behind as a shield. But when we’re trying to protect ourselves from “what others think” we are sinking our identity and boycotting our self-discovery.

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We can’t deny our emotions

We don’t even have to try to overcome our sadness or think that it will ever be overcome. So, there is no need to create a conflict with our feelings. If you think about it, it is quite unproductive to fight ourselves.

We must unlearn what society has taught us and  embrace our demons, for they are not the villains from the movies.

There is not one “right” way to express our emotions because everyone has their own way of showing their feelings. Since they will always accompany us, we have to accept them and interact with them naturally, without forcing, managing and linking them to our body.


Do not imprison your emotions, experience them

It is likely that in more than one occasion you have tried to contain your emotions within your mental walls. But by doing this you are feeding a number of unhealthy emotions. For example, sadness is healthy, but if it accumulates and you contain it, things can get complicated and can develop into a depression.

In other words, everything in excess is bad, and if you’re contaminating yourself on the inside, it’s even worse. That is, you have to listen to irritation to the same extent as sadness or joy. In this way we will keep them from transforming into monsters such as anger, depression or excessive optimism that give us problems.

Let out your emotions and listen to the message they want to convey. If you do not, you will generate a burden which will result in emotional suffocation.

So laugh when you can and when you need to, but do not forget that your tears must also emerge from time to time to help you see life more clearly and, above all, your interior.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.