How to Heal a Broken Heart

Patience, patience and more patience. Relationship breakups are a form of grief and, as such, should be given the necessary importance. Find out how to deal with these situations below.
How to Heal a Broken Heart

Last update: 20 September, 2021

Her soul hurts, it hurts deeply. She feels that, despite having met many people, what she felt for that person, she’d never felt before. Maybe she’ll never feel it again.

Now, he’s left. He says he’s found a new love who’s turned his world upside down. He now thinks of her as just a friend or a sister, but nothing more. She thinks she’s dying inside… her heart’s broken.

She wonders over and over when the pain will pass… Every night she sobs silently when there’s nobody around to see. During the day she keeps herself busy doing a thousand and one things and trying to fool herself into thinking that she’s forgotten him. However, when night comes… she feels alone and empty again. Once again, she puts on that sad song that seems to have been written just for her.

“The most difficult is not the first kiss but the last”

-Paul Géraldy-


Be patient

Does this scenario sound like you? As all the best love songs say, it’s difficult to forget. You can’t make all your memories disappear, much less, your feelings.

You try your hardest to find other loves, to keep yourself busy, and to stay away from all the places you went to together. Those places you can’t think of without tears in your eyes.  However, forgetting is complicated when it comes to love. Because love consumes you. 

When the night comes and you’re alone again, when your work and responsibilities are finished for the day, those feelings of love return and you feel it intensely.

“Real love is composed of ecstasy and agony.”

-Paulo Coelho-

However, a broken heart, like love, is an experience that we’ll all live through at some time or another. In fact, for that reason alone, you should be happy. Because you’ve been lucky enough to know love, to know what it is.

Furthermore, although it hurts, there’s a positive side to having a broken heart. It’s the intense, precious, and beautiful thing that you experienced. Furthermore, it’s something that nobody can take away from you.

Sad and lonely woman

How to heal a broken heart

  • Talk and surround yourself with your loved ones. People who love you and who are by your side in your worst moments can get you out of your sadness by talking to you, laughing with you, and helping you to put things into perspective. Therefore, don’t shut yourself away in your thoughts.
  • Learn that in this life there’s only one thing for certain… death. Remember that the time you were together you were happy. Life’s unpredictable and you have to get used to it. As the poem by Antonio Machado says: “All goes and all remains but our task is to go….”
  • Enjoy being single. Society drums it into you that happiness means being with another by your side. However, this doesn’t have to be the case. The important thing is to be happy, and you can be happy both alone and with another. Therefore, find your own happiness.
  • Take your time. Cry, scream… then carry on. You’re a whole person, you don’t need anyone else to complete you.
  • Don’t meet up with the one who left you. That’s because wounds have to heal. Consequently, it’s not a positive move to meet up with someone who still awakens certain feelings within you. Have fun, meet other people, “flirt” with them… There are plenty more fish in the sea.
  • Don’t plan revenge. It only serves to harm yourself. Even if they upset you, forgive them. Let them go, don’t hold grudges. Don’t harbor thoughts of revenge.

Love and heartbreak are simply a  part of life. Remember that the bad times will pass. Indeed, no matter how gray the sky seems right now, the sun will shine again. Learn from your relationship and keep growing.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.