3 Key Questions to Help You Get to Know Yourself Better
How can we get to know ourselves if we don’t even know who we are? Can we know where we’re going if we don’t really know ourselves? Is it possible to know who we want on our side if we don’t know where we’re going? These three questions will help you get to know yourself better: Who am I? Where am I going? With whom am I going?
In this article, we’re going to reflect on these questions and their possible answers. These answers will make us think about what we’re doing and how we’ll act from now on. These answers will serve as the three cardinal points in the compass of our life.
Who am I?
Let’s begin with this delicate introspection exercise. Have you ever asked yourself who you are? Have you ever written a description of yourself that was so accurate that, if somebody were to read it, they’d recognize you immediately? It’s a difficult task, but not impossible. Let’s begin by signaling how important it is to know yourself.
Knowing who you are means knowing your strengths, weaknesses, what you like, and what you dislike. You truly know yourself if you can connect with what you’re feeling inside: your thoughts and emotions. You can know who you are and respect and value yourself at the same time by putting yourself above all other priorities.
Being able to answer this questions is the key that will help you get to know yourself better because it means you’ve dedicated some time to reflect on it. You can define yourself and also know that you’re more than what you possess, more than the burdens you’re carrying, and more than your emotions. You’re more than all of your surroundings: you’re you!
Where am I going?
Once we know who we are, it’s important to know where we’re going. In other words, what am I spending all of my resources on? Do I really like all the projects I’m involved in? To what point have I decided where I’m at? What control do I have? Do I know what I want? What are my goals? Where does my path start? Which direction I’m going in?
The value of these questions is knowing that your decisions will take you on a path where suffering and disillusion won’t be the protagonists. It implies knowing the real value of the resources you have and putting your priorities in order.
Do I really know who I want to be with? Can I consider it my own decision who I spend my time with? Do I rely on people to reach the goals I set for myself? Many times it’s our deficiencies or needs that force us to rely on others. Sometimes, these can cloud our judgment.
This is the third key question to help you get to know yourself. If you’re capable of knowing who you are and where you’re going, you should choose someone who can support you on your path and help you out if needed. On the other hand, you should stay away from those people that can be a burden (or at least not involve them in important projects). Finally, it would be smart to keep around those people who care about you and can say what they think without sugarcoating it.
Getting to know yourself better
We need to know who we are, then where we’re going, and finally with whom. But it’s got to be in this order because, if not, we risk getting confused and letting others decide our path.
When you know who you are, you’re ready to make decisions and start or continue on a path you’ve chosen, with its ups and downs. When you’ve succeeded in seeing what’s inside and getting to know where you’re headed, you’ll be ready to share what’s inside and the burden you’re carrying. Thus, you’ll be ready to open your arms and receive anybody who has something positive to add to your life. And, at the same time, you’ll be able to enrich those around you.
“It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.”